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post #11 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 01:05 AM Thread Starter
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Yeah. I think you guys are right. My gut just tells me to wait till someone truly amazing comes along and in the meantime just let him do what he does best -- Eat.

I've commited to letting her ride him for a week, but I think I'll tell them I'm not comfortable selling.

I was also worried about her losing interest. The parents think that's a long way off, but then he'll be even less marketable as he'll be older.

Thanks a bunch.
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post #12 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 04:31 AM
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Don't let someone pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. You have decided not to sell him so don't. Your barn owner is probably pushing so she can make the money, and probably keep the new owners as clients. It has nothing to do with what is best for you or your horse.

As far as "wasting" goes, its all a bit ridiculous IMO. Horses have been living in the wild for thousands of years, they are happiest when they are out in the pasture, eating grass with other horses. They don't "love" riding, nor do they care about their worth as a ridden horse. This is all in the riders opinion. Are you wasting money? Possibly. Could he be doing something more as far as riding goes? Probably. Does he care? No.

If I had a mount that did me well for many years I'd be happy to turn him out somewhere, perhaps lease him to a kid every now and then, but whether he were in a paddock, or being ridden, wouldn't really bother me, as long as he is being fed and cared for properly.

If you don't want him anymore, or you can't justify the cost of keeping him then by all means sell him. If you want to keep him then just keep him and tell your barn owner to rack off.
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post #13 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 05:21 AM
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The last two horses I had for 22 years. Both of which died with me nearby. I wouldn't have had it any other way. There was a period of about 15 years that I saw them maybe twice a year. They were at my moms place, so I knew they were being well cared for and loved. I would have never been able to sell them. They were a part of our family!!!!
I have a 17 year old daughter now that is face with a very difficult delima. She has had her horse for 8 years now. He was recently diagnosed with degenerative ligament disorder. She previously foxhunted him and evented him. He has been her caretaker since we bought him. I have told her we will never do anything with him, he will be with us till he dies. Our problem now is finding her another horse that can take care of her the way her gelding has. My daughter had a stroke when she was 4 and has only gross motor movement of the right arm and leg. It takes a special horse to bond with her and know what she really needs.
So, if anyone knows of a special horse like this we are looking. She does not want anything taller than 15 hands.

Good luck with your delima, I say don't sell unless you feel it in your heart that it is right.
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post #14 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 08:01 AM
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I'm a bit surprised by the way your BO is acting. Did she ask you if they could have him for the week? That's a bit out of line really.

Either wait til someone amazing comes along for a lease or pasture him. As long as he's kept utd with his care, I don't see an issue with this. If you do lease him make sure you get an iron clad contract.

Good luck!
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post #15 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 08:23 AM
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Spastic my Dear, I am very happy to hear your decision not to sell him. I truely do believe that if you did sell, you'd greatly regret that decision.

He is the Love Of Your Life and he is very close to your heart and very special, to lose that would be very detramental to you, I've been there and even though MANY years have passed by, I still regret it and I would hate to see you in that position.

If this person doesn't want to Free Lease your baby, then tough titty for her I guess - that's her loss, not yours. There are many young girls and boys out there who are longing for a horse to play with, but cannot because their parents cannot afford to buy them a horse, but can afford to take care of one.

The right person will come along, when it is their time to. Hold onto your boy for as long as you can, and enjoy every moment you have together.

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post #16 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 08:28 AM
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Hmm This is a tough one. You will be SO far away, that if he really needs something, heaven forbid, like surgery, what could you do anyway, other than feel horrible for being so far away, and pay the bill. Do you have someone who will groom him and watch over him while you are gone? I think he deserves that, just my opinion. Free lease is perfect, I have my old guy on one. However, since you will be gone 4 years, you will not be around to deal with lease ending, finding new person, etc. I have a feeling the BO realizes all this and that she will be the one, ultimately, there with the horse for the 4 years.

On the otherhand, altho the 7 yo may not be perfect, with lessons stipulated in the agreement maybe?, perhaps she would be. If the parents are looking for a somewhat longterm commitment, but are afraid the kid will lose interest, perhaps the free lease for X years would be a great situation for all. You would have a longer more committed lease agreement, keep the ability to make the decisions, ultimately, and they would have a horse for the daughter, who, at 7 probably has a few years until she really finds boys and loses interest.

Definitely worth thought, and would take written agreement for sure.

Good luck. I free leased mine to a therapeutic riding center. He loves it, has lots of love to give and get, and I have the ultimate say. He will eventually come back to me if/when he can no longer help them, and live out the rest of his days as a pasture puff. I also would never have given up that control. He is part of the family.

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post #17 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 08:35 AM
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Good luck. I free leased mine to a therapeutic riding center. He loves it, has lots of love to give and get, and I have the ultimate say. He will eventually come back to me if/when he can no longer help them, and live out the rest of his days as a pasture puff. I also would never have given up that control. He is part of the family.
Well said!

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post #18 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 09:41 AM
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I would not sell a horse who is "stubborn and just not listen if you are not confident" to a 7-year-old.

As other people have said, if your gut is telling you it's not a good idea, then it's not a good idea.

It sounds like the BO has some sort of agenda. She shouldn't be pressuring you to sell your horse in this fashion, and the "middle person" business is out of line.
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post #19 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 09:53 AM
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I am guessing the BO's main agenda is making sure they are not 'stuck' taking care of this horse for 4 years while the owner is off in another country.
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post #20 of 38 Old 11-03-2010, 10:07 AM
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The BO is trying to maneuver it so that she has a financial interest in the transaction. Add that to the pressuring, and the whole situation starts to stink.
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