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post #11 of 21 Old 04-16-2013, 03:30 PM
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Gender isn't a determining factor when I look for a horse. I've ridden awesome mares & stallions, moody geldings, and every thing in between.
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post #12 of 21 Old 04-16-2013, 09:32 PM
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Buy the horse you like! You could miss out on a truely great horse by excluding an entire gender.

There are a few mares out there that truely have issues while in heat, but in general I think it's just an excuse for bad behavior/poor training. The sad part is I've seen it used w/ geldings, the gelding is acting like a twit, and it's blamed on a nearby mare (who's likely being perfectly well behaved), just for being there.

I've owned a lot of horses, most were mares (not on purpose, just happened that way), and I have yet to have one that had any real issues when in heat, some maybe a bit more moody at that time (not sure I can blame them), but nothing extreme, or hard to deal with. Most, you'd barely notice.

I have 3 mares currently, and I'm only guessing about when each was last in heat, and base it more on the attention they are either giving or getting from/to other horses. My 3 year old filly definately has the mare stare down, but I've never even seen her kick at another horse. She does have to respect you, but once she does, she's all yours!
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post #13 of 21 Old 04-16-2013, 09:51 PM
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Agreed, I've seen a lot of poor behavior "because its Princess's time of the month". My mare turns into quite the... tramp. If she looks like she is going to squirt, which she will if ANYONE nickers at her, she gets reprimand. Usually a nice firm whack across the booty with my hand or lead line. I respect that she might have a sore back and such, but there is no excuse to be squirting all over at anything that moves. I wouldn't let a stallion hang out all over, likewise I don't want my mare flirting with a horse that looks at her.
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I adore my mare and never really have any issues with her. She is in foal heat now and it is the first time I have ever really seen her mood greatly affected by heat. Prior to this you wouldn't even really know she was in. The one thing she will do some is take advantage of the unsuspecting rider who won't make her do as they want, but even then all she tries to do is go back to the barn or feeding area lol. She isn't mean in the least bit and I enjoy the crap out of her.
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post #15 of 21 Old 04-16-2013, 10:18 PM
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I can appreciate a good mare.. i dont even mind a 'marish' mare.. they arent so bad-- they say no sometimes but usually agree the second time you ask.. not a big deal.

When i think of the horse i loved to ride the most i think of this apha mare. Wonderful horse-- she was down to do whatever- shed jump, run the barrel pattern, rope, etcetera no attitude at all EVER-- she was a maiden mare and to me that has a lot to do with their demeanor. A horse that has had babys gets lazyer and they develop an attitude. Id rather a maiden mare over a gelding any day. :)

I also noticed that a mare thats had babys wants to be more with the herd. As a maiden mare dont care as much..

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post #16 of 21 Old 05-11-2013, 12:38 AM
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I know this post is a bit old but here's my two cents worth when it comes to mares. IMO, mares have a rep they don;t deserve, I've seen just as many moody geldings then mares. When it comes to mare ownership, what I noticed is that mares prefer soft handed, soft spoken people and love when you to spend time with them. Talking to her, brushing her, scratching her itchy spots, spoiling her with treats etc. Once you bond together it's a strong bond, that's what I noticed with mares is they bond with their 'owners' much stronger then their male counter parts do. I find mares bond better with you, a much stronger one, learn faster and are much smarter and problem solvers. Gypsy figured how to turn door knobs and open latches, untie ropes, just by watching me. She's always watching me to see what I'm doing and tries to mimic what I'm doing it's really cute IMO.

I have three mares my self and none are moody witches as people think they are, I've never had then mad at me just other horses, mostly when one tries to come near me(especially if it's another mare) even when there in-heat, Most of the time you can't even tell in some cases. Just that they become more lovey dovey and cuddle/nuzzely. Really the only issue I have is when Gypsy(the mare in my avatar) is in-heat, she must think I'm a hot stud or something cause she will show herself to me. She's a weird-o LOL, I realize she's a horse acting like a horse and see me as part of her herd. I just let her be, no harm is done just a mess to clean up sometimes. I let my girls roam the barn free when I'm down there, just one at a time cause there jealous of each other and want my attention all to their selfs. I'm flattered I have so many cute girls wanting my attention and do they get excited when they see me coming. Gypsy's window faces the driveway and when she see's my truck she starts to call out for me. If there in the field they all come running up to the gate.
Honestly I have yet to meet a mares I didn't get along with, even the ones who allegedly "hate men" I've gotten along with just find. Why that is who knows, just that I'm soft spoken and soft handed and treat horses with love and respect would be my best guess. Best thing to do is meet the horse and see if you can spend time with her. When it comes to horses I will only have mares in my life, I just get along so much better. yes I do know there are bad apples out there, but I find them few and far between.
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post #17 of 21 Old 05-11-2013, 01:40 AM
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all I own are mares. In -my- experiences geldings can be worse than mares.

I have one mare that I almost had marbled because she could be a ding bat while in heat. Once I realized i was coddling her because she was in heat, she became alot less ding batty.
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post #18 of 21 Old 05-11-2013, 03:19 AM
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I will take a mare over a gelding any day.
I agree with Dreamcatcher my favorite horses by gender are Stallions, Mares then geldings.
Mares are loyal senistive and protective. I have owned nearly 100 horses in my lifetime. Most were mares and I have no real complaints about the gender.
Only one mare was really different when in heat and she was not dangerous.
Mares go the extra mile for their owners when the chips are down.
something I have not seen from most geldings and thats the reason I have only kept 6 in the 4 decades of horse ownership I have lived through.
Do not listen to the opinions of others. Go out and form your own. Shalom
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post #19 of 21 Old 05-11-2013, 06:15 AM
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My trainer has a mare that she wants us to consider. My daughter would be using it for shows. Should I be concerned that the mare is likely to be in heat for some fraction of the shows?
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post #20 of 21 Old 05-11-2013, 07:46 AM
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I don't understand how women are so willing to call mares crazy during their heat, but when talking about themselves are ready to get offended at such stereotypes. I have one gelding, and five mares. Yes, I know when they come into heat, they don't hide it, all of mine are very obvious. But they don't give me any more grief than any other horse. It depends on the mare, truly, and their training. My mares are good, but they certainly aren't the best they could be, but even then I don't have any more problem with them in heat then I do out. I wouldn't let being a mare be a deal breaker. I've met a few in my life that are horrors when in heat, but then again my gelding can be terrible to ride around mares simply because he prances around and moves 'prettily' but uncomfortably. They don't even have to be in heat, that's just how he is.

If I get another horse, it will be a mare, along with 80% of horses after that. If you find a good one, go for it.
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