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post #1 of 10 Old 08-15-2010, 08:09 PM Thread Starter
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Call me Drama Mama -.-

To read up on the current drama between me and a coworker look here :

those who don't wanna do the reading, the short of it is that I don't want her to watch my horses when I go away in about a month, despite the fact that she had previously watched them before.

But of course ontop of the drama going on about her being upset (despite my best efforts to be polite and pleasant with her) one of her previous clients asked me to show a horse for her that my coworker had been showing previously. I am always looking for an oppourtunity to get out and show, get myself and peoples horses out there etc. but given the situation I'm in I told her I couldn't decide right then :\

She's gotten wind of it and has reached a whole new level of upset with me. Enough that she tried to get me in trouble with my boss, saying I used her horse in one of my lessons without her permission. Thank the good lord for email, I just printed out the correspondance between us clearly showing me asking to use the horse at x time on x day, and her agreeing. She came back saying that she must have gotten the dates confused and 'apologized' to me. This just so happened to be infront of our slightly irked boss. Like I've admitted in the other thread, my boss does have a bit of a favoritism towards her because she sells horses. Whereas I'm really not that aggressive about selling my kids the first lesson horse they think is pretty.

I would LOVE to get out and show this mare (despite my usual avoidance of them. Too marey xD) as she's really flashy and a few ribbons to add to my record always helps in bringing more clients to my barn and in my lessons. But I don't know if it is going to be worth it if it's going to cause this much trouble in the barn for me. Any opinions on what I should do? I'm so not a 'dealing with people' person. I talk to horses, they're much less...human -.-
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post #2 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 03:48 PM Thread Starter
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bump? Still haven't gotten back to this lady x(
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post #3 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 04:25 PM
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Your coworker sounds like she lives for drama. If she will try to get your in trouble and get nasty because you have someone else watching your horses, I would just not be a "talking" friend anymore to her. Have a professional attitude at the barn, but other than that, I would not go any further.
If someone asked for you to show the horse, and you want to do it, then show her. You do not have to ask your coworker permissions to show the horse, the owners asked you to do it.
A person who lives for drama is all about themselves and always will be. Be careful that you always save emails and texts and never have a confrontation with her without someone else present to protect yourself.
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post #4 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 06:12 PM
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Show her. They obviously weren't thrilled with your coworker doing it otherwise they wouldn't have asked you. You co-worker seems like a DRAMA QUEEN of mass proportions! I seriously think you just need to do what's best for you and if that is showing this girl, then go for it!

*Dreams are within reach, you just have to go that extra mile to catch them*
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post #5 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 07:12 PM Thread Starter
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Its not like we were even friends before. I took her up as a horse sitter originally because I knew she wouldn't charge me for it and despite the way I talk about her she IS a good rider. Just not the same kind of rider I need for Cash. I DO want to show this mare but the trouble it causes me around the barn is starting to feel not worth it. There are other people, other horses in the world. Would letting one mare slip by in exchange for some peace at the barn really be unwise? :\
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post #6 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 08:03 PM
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Excuse the following language:

I would sit my *** on that mare and to hell with the rest of them!
Ultimately it could benefit you: you win, kids parents notice, you get more lesson kids in, and the BO is impressed. Also, teach this girl that she can't bully you into things! No way should you allow her to belittle you.

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post #7 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 09:10 PM
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O wow, this is one of those danged if you do, danged if you don't kinda situations.
I'm usually a 'peace-keeper' when it comes to people but once in awhile you meet these live-for-the-drama types who seem bent on ruining your life. For those-I have no tolerance.
So i say go ahead and ride the mare and find someone else to watch your horse.

The aim of art is to represent not the outward appearance of things, but their inward significance. ~Aristotle
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post #8 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 10:22 PM
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You never know what kind of opportunities riding that mare could open for you. To hell with barn drama. Do this for YOU.

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post #9 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 10:56 PM
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Eh. I'm going to go way out on a limb here and tell you to toe this line carefully. You're obviously a very professional rider and person, and I know some of the qualms you're having over this.

You need to seriously weigh the pros and cons over who this girls connections are and how badly you may be sabotaging yourself in the equestrian circles you run in. Does she have clout to make your life miserable over this? Is she able to do enough damage that riding this one spectacular mare could lose you rides on five other spectacular horses?

Obviously everyone would rather see you on this horse and the girl eating dirt, but you probably know better then anybody how tight knit and dramatic these circles are - it's a part of horses, plain and simple. If NOT riding this horse is going to put a large dent in your career, then by all means, screw her. But if passing up one in ten rides is going to serve you better in the future, then I think you know the answer.

Best of luck either way, this is pretty much why I decided I'd rather trail ride for the rest of my life.

I hope God tells her to smash her computer with a sledgehammer.

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post #10 of 10 Old 08-17-2010, 11:25 PM Thread Starter
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Thank you everyone for the advice, though I think everyone but MM is going to be a little dissapointed in me :\

I emailed the woman earlier this evening, giving her a list of riders from our barn who I know are looking for rides and are perfectly capable of taking on this mare (I've ridden her before, very easy going easy to ride) and that my descion had nothing to do with her personally, I simply didn't believe I had the time to truly give her the attention for showing she deserves. I thought about mentioning the bit of scrap between my coworker and I but decided against it. Horse people are talkers and I don't need to add anything to fuel the fires.

I'm a little dissapointed I didn't get to ride this mare about but in the long run if it saves me drama its well worth it. There are a LOT of people in the area who got their horse from my coworker, like I said she is a really aggressive seller, and too that they are loyal to her. She's not a bad person at all, she just likes the drama and is very protective of her 'image'. She still won't be taking care of my horses (that was settled in the previous thread, the care of MY horses comes over any crap she'd pull in the barn 100%) but taking one of her clients now is just not smart. We'll see how things go over, I'm hoping that if I just steer clear and keep my head down around her it'll blow over and we can resume the previous relationship we had. Which was dividing out horses for lessons and thats it.

Also MM? You have no idea how appealing the idea of that last sentence of yours can get sometimes -.- horses are like highschool sometimes.
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