Originally Posted by ginofalltrades View Post
Last night my husband and I had an intense talk about our future. In doing this we came down to a serious but light hearted debate.
I am wondering if any of you parents, that also own horses, can shed some light on the situation.
I am a 37 year old woman, with a ticking clock. I have never had a strong drive to have children, as I have had horses for most of my adult life, but I still have the instinct to procreate. My husband does not want children, but would do it for me if I wanted. I had told him that as long as I was caring for my 2 horses and showing in Eventing, that I wouln't feel the need to fill a hole in my life. This made him feel cornered, but it was me being as honest as I could be. (I'm sure some of you ladies have had this conversation) He complained about the cost of our animals and flippantly suggested that having children would be less expensive, and that is where the debate began.
Tell me, do you agree or disagree? I honestly have no idea even what a diaper costs, so I am very interested.
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I have reread your original post, and I am having second thoughts...
First of all, you state that you have never had a strong drive to have children as you have had horses. Most women get the baby craze way before your age, and since you have never "had a strong drive" to do so, I would not if I were you. You may resent the demands of raising a child.
Secondly, you seem to think that having horses in some way satisfies your maternal instincts. Yes, taking care of animals and other things besides children is fulfilling to women in that respect, but in no way compares to having your own child. There is just no comparison.
And finally, your husband does not want children, but he "would do it for me if I wanted". That in itself is a "no go".