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post #1 of 58 Old 10-26-2009, 11:49 AM Thread Starter
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Complained that we're not working our horses

I received an e-mail this morning from my BO. In it she said that my horses are "jump and skitzy" saying that its only natural for them to be this way when they haven't been worked in months. She wants up to come up there and lunge/work with them.
Normally I would be up there almost every day messing and fussing with them, but for the past 9 months (really longer since I had planned on only giving them the winter off) They've just been pasture puffs.
I have not felt comfortable to go up there and work with a 1000 + lb. animal while being pregnant. I was not about to put the life of my unborn child in danger. (And i'm sure any mother, or expectant mother can respect that decision)
Now my hubby is working extra long hours at work so he can take time off once the baby arrives, so he hasn't had the free time to mess around with them.
Im sure we could squeeze a few short work session in before the baby comes, but after that, I have NO idea the next time we'll a. be up to working with horses b. have the energy and c. will want to leave our newborn child (with a grandparent)
I'm not saying we won't ever be out there again, but for a couple months, we're not going to want to, especially when it starts to snow.

I know my BO doesn't want crazy out of control horses to be handling, but does she really expect us to come out 9 days before my due date and work horses? Not to mention the baby can come at any time, so I wont be too thrilled if my water breaks as I'm lunging a horse.
But shouldn't she also have maybe somewhat expected something like this to happen? To have boarders that didn't come out to see their horses? To have, at some point in time, unruly horses?
Its like if we didn't have everything to worry about the baby coming, now we have to like drop everything and exercise the horses. I dont know it just seems, I dont even know how to explain it.

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post #2 of 58 Old 10-26-2009, 11:53 AM
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Hmmm.... is it possible to considering finding someone to lease them until you get into a routine with the new baby?

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i think she has the horses in mind when she is sending you this email and im sure she thinks that it is fine to work with horses when pregnant but i would personally not be happy to be around giant beasts when and if i get pregnant. you made the right decision, there is no question in my mind about that. have you thought of loaning or leasing out the horses so they get some exercise or ask someone on the yard to work with them if they have spare time, im sure they wont mind seeing as you are so close to your due date.

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Wow. Not sure how to react to that one. I am assuming she is the one handeling them. Are they being turned out everyday? Do they get brought in at night? If they are being turned out daily then they have no need to be longed in my opinion. If it is because their ground manners are getting poopie then I would have her just tie them to a hitching post for an hour or two a day while she does work. It's a very humbling experience and for whatever reason, they seem to remember their manners after spending time on the "thinking tree".

Otherwise you'll have to find a horse person to go out and work them for you. You are way too far along to be going out there right now nad it'll be a minimal of 6 weeks after the baby before you can get out there and do anything....

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I was thinking the same thing. Have someone lease them even if it is not to ride them, but to atleast work them. When I was prego and actually an entire year after I had my daughter, I didn't do anything with horses because I was soooo busy, so I just free leased my horse out to this girl who was going to college to be an equine veterinarian and also taking classes to train and do hooves, lol ( i feel i got lucky) but anyways, she needed the hours and I didn't have the money but definitely had the hours to give her from my horse, lol.

The only difference with me is my horses were in my pasture where I could see, hmmm...I don't know what I would do if I was in your situation because you board.

CONGRATS THOUGH!! If you can't tend to your horses though, I don't see any harm in them for being pasture puffs for a little while, lol, as long as when you do decide to ride or mess with them again, take the precautions that they have been sitting for a while, but as for your BO, I have no clue.

But yah you are definitely too far along to be out there lunging horses, haha.

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If the BO is the one feeding them, bringing them in, and turning them out, I don't blame her for not wanting to handle pent-up horses. Would it be possible to get someone to lease them for the time being? Or at least have a friend go out and lunge them or something.

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What your barn owner is asking is not at all unreasonable. While it is understandable that right now you and your baby are your first priority, it is your responsibility to ensure that your horses are safe to be around and that doesn't change just because you are pregnant. If you feel unable to work your horses because of your impending due date, and that is causing problems, it is your responsibility to find someone to work with your horses, at least at the minimal level of getting their jitters out a couple times a week. Unless you are willing to pay her more money to do so, it seems unreasonable to me that you would expect your barn owner to make up for the time you aren't spending with your horses, either by having to deal with them being unsafe, or having to take extra training efforts like lounging or hitching them.

Just as you are busy with your own life, barn owners are often pressed for time too. You need to be respectful of that time and also their concerns for their own safety and the safety of other people and horses at their barn.

I'm sure that if you call her, your BO will help you figure out something. Either you can pay her extra to lounge your horses once or twice a week, or maybe she can suggest someone who would like the opportunity to have some horses to ride in some sort of lease situation.
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I have had Vega up on numerous websites to have someone to free lease her and I've gotten a few inquiries, but no one has taken any dibs. Gem we never planned on leasing out due to him being like semi-retired (due to physical problems).
I will contact people from the old barn and see if they know anyone who would want to spend some time with them. As for current people at the barn... its a small private place. 1 woman rarely sees her horse, another one I've only seen a handful of times for about 5 min., and I never met the other boarder.

Gem and Vega were being turned out 24/7 until the temperature dropped at night. Then they come into their stalls at night and are turned out again the next day.
They do have a lot of room to run around if they chose to do so, and they are also out with 2 other horses. (so its not like they are just standing around by themselves).
I do understand where my BO is coming from, I just couldn't believe she was saying this 9 days before my due date. And with my husband pulling long hours at the office, its not practical IMO for him to close up the office, therefore losing incoming orders and losing time to work on computers, to exercise them.
Hopefully one of the girls from the old barn wouldn't mind working them.
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I can understand the situation you are in. It must be difficult, but you could maybe try leasing them out to someone to exercise them.

My riding instructer fell pregnant about 10 months ago, and she still worked with the horses and gave lessons and all, even now that the baby has been born she still takes time to give lessons and work with the horses. But then again, she has a husband who will work with the horses for her.

I don't know what else you could do, especially with the barn owner. I hope things work out for you. And good luck. ; )

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Maybe you can pay your BO a little something extra for her to lunge each of them couple times a week until you are able to come back?

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