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post #1 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 05:20 PM Thread Starter
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Considering new horse, bad first ride, thoughts?

Hello all,

Has anyone ever looked at a horse that they were interested in buying and EVERYTHING about the horse was absoultely perfect...until you got on the first time?

I am looking at a horse who is EVERYTHING I want minus the fact that she has some emotional scars and is extremely testy of new people on her back. So, her testy and untrustfulness is the drawback. She is an astounding mover with a dressage background amongst many other talents that I am looking for. The person who is selling her (a person who I know & trust) rode her for me first today and showed me how she can move like a dream with nearly invisible cues. Oh, and she's in my price range also, considering that I am going through issues with my current horse. Ugh

She isn't being advertised for sale, but he's more of looking for the right person for her & told me he would like for me to give her a try--so this is not just some guy trying to pawn off a horse. I got on, and she was very testy PLUS I am used to my WP horse's cues which is basically all leg and spur. She relies on extremely minimal leg, extremely minimal rein, and very very much relies on seat engagement, which is something I really need to work on. Consequently, our first ride together (considering it was our first real hot day out here and the bugs were awful as well) did not go very smooth. I confused her, upset her, and think maybe pushed her too far for a first ride -since she is sensitive to new people- unintentionally. Trust wasn't a pretty sight. I don't know, maybe she just straight up doesn't like me?? However, I walked away still really really wanting to try and make it work with her.

So of course, I'm going to go out and spend time with her & take lessons with her to see if she and I can make progress as a potential team. I'm nervouse since she's so different than what I'm used to--but is what I'm looking for, and I know she's very selective of her riders.

Has anyone ever been in a situation like this and had it work out??? Should a bad first ride be an instant NO??? Please share your thoughts and stories!!!
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post #2 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 05:30 PM
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I know I bought Looby because I was getting desperate for a horse with the summer coming on and I'd looked at loads and felt sorry for her. The situation was a bit like yours and its been a bumpy road. I love her to bits and she's not the same horse I bought at all but not sure if I'd do it again.
I was able to have her on a 6 week trial and saw a lot of improvement in that time - any chance you could do the same with this horse
It concerns me that not only is she very rider sensitive but she's also a totally different discipline to what your used too
I rode a WP horse for a few weeks and I'm a UK trained English rider and she struggled to understand me and me her. It wasn't a match made in heaven
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post #3 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 05:36 PM
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A "great" horse with a crappy disposition gets scratched off my list right away.
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post #4 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 05:54 PM
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My favourite Saddlebred, was much as the horse you describe. He just loved his mum and that was that. I actually didn't purchase him until he was older but from the first day, he was 'my' horse. I knew his previous owners and knew he had been always treated well with them.

So I'm wondering, if this horse is close by, could you start being the one to feed, water and take care of him? No riding, just spending time with him and his owner not being around him. I'm wondering if he has a chance to build up a bond with you, if then he might accept you on his back more readily?

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post #5 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 06:07 PM
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At last I really understand that you shouldn't buy a horse with niggles, because if it's niggling you before you hand over the money, it kind of never goes away. If you are asking here then you are not sure, so keep looking
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post #6 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 06:12 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for your advice :) unfortunately this horse is 40 mins away.. But I want to get out at least twice a week to take lessons with her but maybe I can ask to come out an hour early to do some "fun" non-work stuff with her. The man says she generally puts people through this kind of "initiation process" and it's worse with those who confuse her.. I tend to pick the most challenging things in life haha! I want a horse that I can do dressage and/or hunter classes with so I feel that if I can get her to "like" me she would be awesome..
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post #7 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 06:18 PM
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I do think it makes a huge difference, if a horse likes the rider or even the person who is taking care of them. See how it goes. Maybe she will begin to look forward to your visits. Maybe not. You'll know and if she doesn't come around, just know there is another horse out there for you.

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You are right.. I just have to keep my eyes and mind open. The thing that gets me is that she was super sweet to me on the ground both before and after I rode! Ugh. I had planned on dedicating my summer to dressage or hunt seat training anyway so if I end up not buying her at least I'll gain some experience!
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post #9 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 06:38 PM
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I feel like this horse is out of your experience level.. and she isn't really the type to accept persons that aren't quite there yet.

Even with lessons I feel she isn't quite what would best fit your needs.
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post #10 of 14 Old 05-29-2013, 08:14 PM
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i went through this with my heart horse, pepper. I had A LOT to learn with her- and she is very much not the "teacher type". Granted it was love at first sight for the both of us, our first few rides just plain sucked!

I think that since you can work with a trainer and take lessons, you should stick with it and see if you two start to mesh. some horses are just not in you pocket types- doesnt nessesarily mean they have crappy dispositions.

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