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post #21 of 25 Old 04-22-2017, 01:08 AM
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None of us are getting out of here alive, that's is something we have to face unfortunately. However, instead of focusing on the horse's death, focus your thoughts on his life, that is how you honor his memory. Remember things about him that make you smile.

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post #22 of 25 Old 04-22-2017, 01:21 AM
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Im so very sorry. Please don't second guess your decision. Yes, it's very painful for us emotionally. Nothing you can do but grieve in your own way. Cry all you want to. I'm sorry that in witnessing his final moments it was so tramautizing for you. After watching my Vet euthanize a horse that had been severely burned in a barn fire, I decided then and there that I would not participate in that aspect with any of my horses in the future. And I haven't, as I know my limits.

I wish that I could wipe those images from your mind to help ease the pain you are feeling. All I can tell you is that, with time it will fade. Remember him by thinking of all the joy he gave you. Someday you will be able to think about him once again with a smile.
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post #23 of 25 Old 04-22-2017, 01:24 AM
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I am so sorry for the pain and grief you are feeling. If only there was a way to erase the memories and the sick in your gut feeling. Some way to stop the loop in your head. There isn't.

I have heard many people say that time heals all wounds. That is not true. It will always hurt, but soon you will start to adapt. You will learn to function and eventually live with this pain.

Please allow yourself time to grieve. Be kind to yourself. You have been through a devastating loss.

Whatever happened during the procedure, euthanasia, does not matter now. The bottom line is that you ended his suffering, and he is no longer trapped in a body that cannot allow him to live. You set him free from his prison. You did the right thing. You made the choice to suffer yourself so he wouldn't have to anymore.

I am so sorry.
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post #24 of 25 Old 04-22-2017, 01:29 AM
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@Tigo , I think it's pretty normal to second guess yourself for a while but it will pass as you go through the grief process. I've been with every one of mine that's had to be euthanized to the very end and it's not because I wanted to be there but for them, just in case my presence offered them any comfort in those last moments. Maybe try to look at it that way.

I'm sorry for your loss and for what you're going through now.

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post #25 of 25 Old 04-22-2017, 02:37 AM
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I am so sorry the final moments were so traumatic for you. I don't believe that is the common end, when I had my mare put down she stood there while the vet injected her. I saw her eyes go dull and she became unsteady on her feet. When the vet judged the time right he pushed her to take a step back and she went down quiet and easy. No excessive trauma. She was gone before she was down.

Without knowing what process your vet had I am totally guessing. But perhaps the first injection wasn't strong enough.

Ease off on the guilt, you have no reason for it. And hard as it was for you, i believe it is easier for the horse (any animal) if THEIR person is with them. No matter how hard it was for the horse, his person (you) were there. I would think that the first dose was at least strong enough to induce unconsciousness.

There was nothing you could change. Let go the 'what ifs' and allow yourself to grieve normally. Crying is good (I wish I could cry but still haven't).

You have done good. I know it doesn't feel like it.
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