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post #1 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 05:41 AM Thread Starter
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Coping without a horse...

Its not easy.

Feel like my arm has been removed. Dad's mare has gone to be a pasture puff in the most amazing place due to continual lameness from her navicular.

My boy is with my trainer, and also has an amazing life home.

But I find although I have more money, I am having no fun. Feels like a big part of me is gone and I need to find something to give that love to.

Finally put his saddle up for sale so I can get my driving started. Have someone to look at it tonight and still feel sick and that he is going to come here any minute.

Daft, eh?

How has everyone else coped? I am trying to persuade my dad looking at something suitable for us both would be a good idea early next year.. but it may be knee jerk reaction to having no horse. How I wish Dubai had been bigger and older so he could carry my dad too :(
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post #2 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 06:48 AM
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I know what you mean.

Without a horse I have enough money to get by, I am more flexible but it's like my life just bland. Nothing to think and dream about. I've been a horse rider and owner for so long that it's not just a hobby, but part of my identity. Since having a horse again I am permanently broke but I go out everyday, think and dream about things I am going to do. I just feel more like me.

I hope you can work something out to make you happy.
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post #3 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 07:22 AM
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When I was horseless, I had to focus on my other goals. Fortunately, I had three adorable "goals" (my daughters), who by their existence reminded me that they were my priority at that time.

I did stay involved in agriculture and horse-related issues as a volunteer, doing education and outreach on legislative issues and such. I also kept a few bits of tack that I could touch as something concrete (a crummy headstall with bit, a halter, and an extra leather curb strap!).

I sold my ranch saddle and gear first for the rent one month, and a year later sold my hunter tack and the rest to pay for a semester of tuition. Those were tough to do. The memories we can have attached to objects! I understand.

Best wishes at getting back into and around horses.
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post #4 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 07:28 AM
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I don't know how things work in Germany but would it be possible for you and your father to get something low maintenance, maybe older, not in need of so much consistent training like a youngster, that you guys could share and keep in a pasture board set up? Obviously that wouldn't further your dressage goals, but there's a lot to be said for trail riding and general pottering about.
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post #5 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 07:51 AM
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Try volenteering at a therapy barn
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post #6 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 07:59 AM Thread Starter
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Littrella, we don't have that sort of thing out here unfortunately. I have previously helped with therapy and additional needs riding and thoroughly enjoyed it! The only volunteer work you'll get around here is free labour skipping out boxes for others ;)

TSS I have tried, and to be honest there are some reasonably priced 7-14YO horses that hack and plod in the school that I could easily train up and enjoy, and dad could pootle in the school and hack with. Its just persuading.

They say money is happiness.. don't feel the happy right now!

I am sure where there is a will there is a way.

I wish I had something to focus on (But currently not gearing up to have kids haha) but apart from my driving (which is turning in to a complete nause trying to find a school that speaks English and do it under 14 months!) and a course I am doing, there is nothing to keep me out of mischief.. trust me.. I have looked!

Where there is a will there is a way..
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post #7 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 08:08 AM
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Cant realy give you any advice because when I was horseless I didnt cope at all. I lasted 2 weeks after stan died before I caved and bought Reeco.

Mum was pushing me into it as well because according to her I was a jittery mess that had no way of ridding myself of stress and energy (I dont do Gyms and never will).

RIDE your horse FORWARDS and keep him STRAIGHT

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post #8 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 08:13 AM
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Urgh, I'm not coping either. My mental health has gone down the toilet since leasing out Brock. I'm going to volunteer at a therapy barn 10 minutes down the road, but need to wait til next year as they are only open during work hours and my neck is on the chopping block as it is, so can't afford to take Friday afternoons off

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post #9 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 08:16 AM
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DD, sorry I missed it somewhere, but why don't you ride your boy? I remember you were so excited.

P.S. "money is happiness" is truly wrong statement IMHO.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass: it's about learning to dance in the rain..."

"When we are no longer able to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves."

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post #10 of 20 Old 08-06-2013, 08:57 AM
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Been there. What works for me is finding another project and throwing myself into it, something physical. It can be as simple as going to a gym or start running. As much as we lover our time in the barn, it's also a very active hobby/sport and your body will miss that activity. Keep active and you'll find that the time away from your horse won't be as bad.

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