I need to Ďventí amongst unbiased people, who donít know the thick of it.
So here it is. Iím in my mid 20ís. And Iím slowly getting prepared to buy my first home - slowly. Iíve been saving my nickels and dimes for a down payment. But, hereís my dilemmaÖ
Iíve lived on one side of the state for my whole life, I like it here, but property on this side of the state is spendier, but possible to own. As of right now, I keep my horses at my grandmothers house. She has 16 acres (mind you, very wet acres in the winter Ė the pastures donít usually dry out till mid May), a small two stall barn with a lean to, huge shop (mind you that has the facility business run out of it at the moment), a nice house, fenced decently, but part of it is very graveled due to the family business. I do have a very high probability of inheriting my grandmothers property when she passes, or at very least getting half and the other half split with my dad. But, the problem with this is I donít live there. There is nothing more than Iíve ever wanted then to live with my horses. My grandmother is still rather young, and to be frank, I donít want to be renting and waiting, and not knowing if Iíll get the place when she is gone. If the property is split, my father will be Ďrudeí with his. i.e. wonít care if I want to buy it or use it (we donít really have a relationship), and I fear heíll section me off of it. And my grandmother will tell no one who gets the place in her will. In no way, am I wishing my grandmother away, Iím just getting to a point in my life where I want my OWN life. I want a property where I can put the fences where I want, park my trailer where I want, have more space to do things then just my little barn.
On the other note, my very long time boyfriend is from the other side of the state. Typically this part of the state is pretty sagey and dry, but up North where heís from itís very green Ė I adore it. Warm/dry summers and snowy/dry winters Ė I love it. No mud and not a lot of yucky rain = lots more riding time. Property on this side of the state is much cheaper, but wages are also lower. The great point of this, is that my boyfriends father owns their family company, thatís 4 generations in the making (5 if my boyfriend took it over), so this business is very well off and settled. If my boyfriend worked over there heís take a few dollar pay cut Ė but this could be made up with the commission heíd make with the job. On top of all this, this job it secure and there is a lot less drama that goes along with it. As for me, Iíve been at my current job for a few years now, the drama and work load it outrageous and the pay would be the same on either side of the state for me. I also like that on my boyfriends side of the state there is so much more space and land between you and the next person.
Iíve been told make a list of the good and the bad. Weight your options. Etc. Iíve done it all, but need some clear thinking.
I know very few people on the other side of the state.
My family is on my side.
Help clear my mind! Haha!