Descisions, decisions... - Page 2 - The Horse Forum
LinkBack Thread Tools
post #11 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 03:47 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 97
• Horses: 0
That is a very good idea @ Dancingarabian - I do know he wouldn't want me to 'hold my self back', but at the same time, it would break my heart to see that place go. I always say, as crummy as it sounds, I couldn't enter the town where my grandparents house is if it sold outside of the family. But, at the same time, the place is no where near how 'perfect' it used to be before he passed on.
DiamondK is offline  
post #12 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 05:08 PM
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Palmyra, Wisconsin
Posts: 6,161
• Horses: 4
The best way to get over an old love is to get a new one.
If you bought your own new place you may love it more than you can imagine now. If later you inherit you could sell & possibly pay off or add to your new place.
DiamondK likes this.
natisha is offline  
post #13 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 05:38 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 97
• Horses: 0
Your so true! I need to do a little soul searching. My familiy isn't the closest, but we're close enough that I'd miss 'em. I'm just going to have to really scope out the other side of the state, find the area I really like a go from there. There's ample jobs over there that fit my qualifications and so forth. I just need to make sure it's the 'right' thing.
DiamondK is offline  
post #14 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 05:53 PM
Join Date: May 2013
Location: Carlsbad, NM
Posts: 416
• Horses: 7
If you could find a place lease to own, possibly... that might be another thought. I am sort of playing a waiting game as well, as my mom is supposed to split up 40 acres between 3 of us, but she has been so wishy washy with it, that I moved on and have come to the conclusion that if she gives me some land so I can keep my horses out there, fine, if not, I will move my horses to a friend's property that has 38 fenced in acres. There comes a point when you just have to cut ties (I know, not easy), and do what is best for you for your future and mental health.
DiamondK likes this.

To see the wind's power, the rain's cleansing and the sun's radiant life, one need only to look at the horse."
Falcor74 is offline  
post #15 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 06:21 PM
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Texas
Posts: 6,015
• Horses: 0
I would not pick up and move anywhere unless I had my own place and job that was secure.
It sounds as if you will be dependent on the boyfriend for support and two people who are not bound legally together renting or buying property is a recipe for trouble.
Either make a commitment to your boyfriend and get a secure job to support you and the horse independently or stay put.
You need to think long term here and if you have saved up enough buy your own place and make the payment yourself. Shalom
dbarabians is offline  
post #16 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 06:31 PM Thread Starter
Join Date: Aug 2012
Posts: 97
• Horses: 0
I'm ample dependent on my own as is. The boyfriend just makes more then I did, so I was just throwing that tidbit out there to help describe my situation. Money isn't the big issue here. Because for me, up and moving over there would result in me first needing to find a job over there. In no way would I up and move without knowing I'd have a job waiting for me. I was just laying out that the boyfriend has a open job offer, if you will, should the decision be made to move over there.

The big issue is basically, "to move or not to move" and to help clear my head from the 'emotional' ties in order to make rational decisions.

Untimately, though it may not look like it, I am trying to think long term - in case that wasn't coming across clear :). I'm trying to figure out 'where to settle down' and plant some roots.
DiamondK is offline  
post #17 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 06:39 PM
Join Date: Jun 2011
Location: Cariboo, British Columbia
Posts: 13,934
• Horses: 3
Don't ever bank on an inheritance, it rarely pans out, Granny could be mortgaged, have other debts, other creditors, or she could even been silly and taken out a reverse mortgage or she may leave it to charity, DO NOT COUNT ON INHERITANCES, period. Other than that, do what makes you happy and what you can afford, but again, get the inheritance thing out of your brain, it most likely won't be what you expect.
waresbear is offline  
post #18 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 06:48 PM
Join Date: Sep 2011
Location: california
Posts: 5,769
• Horses: 0
lots of good advice. You cannot count on an inheritance. You cannot count on the BF.
You should look at what hay cost are, water cost, and what options there are for horses.
Also consider this, Will you be happy if something were to happen and you could not keep horses, or ride ? would you still want to live in that area ? Things do happen . But since you are still young buying is a really good investment !
stevenson is offline  
post #19 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 06:53 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Georgia USA
Posts: 8,234
• Horses: 1
I would only move if it is a good financial opportunity. Financial opportunity could be getting a good job or it could involve marrying someone that is financially secure. It is always a good plan to move from a financially stable life to a life that may lower your standard of living. A lot of people end up having to give up their horses and a lot of other things that they enjoy due to financial issues.

If I move to a new job, it will have to increase my quality of life both financially and otherwise. If I move to a new home, it will have to increase my quality of life. The mature thing to do is to consider your future, your career, and your finances.

If your boyfriend is serious enough to move somewhere with, he should be serious enough to make a long term commitment. A boyfriend is not a husband and he shouldn't convince you to take financial risks.
dbarabians likes this.

Carpe Diem!
Celeste is offline  
post #20 of 21 Old 07-11-2013, 10:46 PM
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: Georgia USA
Posts: 8,234
• Horses: 1
I should have said "It is never a good plan to move from a financially stable life to a life that may lower your standard of living."
dbarabians likes this.

Carpe Diem!
Celeste is offline  

Quick Reply

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the The Horse Forum forums, you must first register.

Already have a Horse Forum account?
Members are allowed only one account per person at the Horse Forum, so if you've made an account here in the past you'll need to continue using that account. Please do not create a new account or you may lose access to the Horse Forum. If you need help recovering your existing account, please Contact Us. We'll be glad to help!

New to the Horse Forum?
Please choose a username you will be satisfied with using for the duration of your membership at the Horse Forum. We do not change members' usernames upon request because that would make it difficult for everyone to keep track of who is who on the forum. For that reason, please do not incorporate your horse's name into your username so that you are not stuck with a username related to a horse you may no longer have some day, or use any other username you may no longer identify with or care for in the future.

User Name:
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:


Old Thread Warning
This thread is more than 90 days old. When a thread is this old, it is often better to start a new thread rather than post to it. However, If you feel you have something of value to add to this particular thread, you can do so by checking the box below before submitting your post.

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
My saddle dilemma (decisions, decisions!) hellothere Horse Tack and Equipment 2 04-04-2013 07:09 PM
Hmm, decisions...decisions LOL smrobs Horse Talk 92 02-07-2013 01:23 PM
Thinline pads...decisions decisions Golden Horse Horse Tack and Equipment 13 09-19-2012 11:09 AM
Decisions, Decisions! Sporthorse Breeding 2011 Decisions =P NittanyEquestrian Horse Breeding 34 12-27-2010 09:06 PM
Tough descisions bunni1900 Horse Protection 12 05-23-2010 02:14 PM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are On

For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome