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post #1 of 27 Old 11-11-2013, 10:42 PM Thread Starter
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Do any of you have friends whose riding has embarrased you?

I used to have a boyfriend, he was in his 40's and never ridden before. He wanted to go riding with me, so someone loaned him a horse. He got on, and sat WAY back in the saddle, shoulders slumped way over with a rein held high in each hand, and would use the reins to pull the horse each way. We all tried to correct him, but he didn't want to hear it, no, he was going to ride his way. I was so embarrassed to be seen riding with him, and everyone was laughing at him.
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post #2 of 27 Old 11-11-2013, 10:53 PM
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Key word "Never" as in... new.. as in complete beginner.

I would say my own riding used to embarrass me.. now I can say I'm prouder of what I'm doing.

I wouldn't see fit to laugh at someone, even if they were being stubborn about not taking my advice.
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post #3 of 27 Old 11-11-2013, 11:11 PM
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I'm embarrassed by my own riding, and it took me a while to get over the fact that people will see me ride. I kind of want to die inside when people are sharing the ring with me.
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post #4 of 27 Old 11-11-2013, 11:15 PM
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I've ridden with teens who have thrown first on horseback because their horse wasn't responding the way they wanted them to. THAT embarrassed me, but I've never been embarrassed by someone because they were newbies.
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post #5 of 27 Old 11-11-2013, 11:20 PM
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Well, if someone is a beginner and still learning, I dont think its nice to say you're embarrassed by them, unless as in your boyfriends case, if he wasnt even willing to take instruction, I guess its more embarrassement about his behaviour than the actual riding. But if its someone who's been riding a while and does something silly or dangerous and refuses to acknowledge there's a problem, then it may be embarrassing in front of others, but more for them than you as a friend I would think. Dont know if that even makes sense, but I know what i mean .
As one of the others said, I get embarrassed about my OWN riding sometimes, but I am still a novice and willingly accept pretty much any and all instruction or suggestions!
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post #6 of 27 Old 11-12-2013, 12:01 AM
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Lol my boyfriend's riding needs some work too... but in the end I'm just happy he makes a point of coming riding with me :) He will get better with experience and maybe a few gentle reminders but until then I just hope he continues enjoying it (at least a little bit) as much as I do. Who cares if others laugh?
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post #7 of 27 Old 11-12-2013, 12:18 AM
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I have... by my old TRAINER. I was living out of town for four years, and when I moved back in the area I wanted to get back into lessons so called her up. She has been out of horses completely for a couple of years, but was willing to teach me. The lessons... weren't quite what I remembered them to be. Not long into my last lesson my horse wasn't being quite "right" (I think he was worked up by something going on outside, and I was a bit upset by the lesson and my trainer thus far) and she asked if she could hop on him for a bit to see what she could feel. She's ridden him countless times during lessons, so she hopped on.

Boy, it was a disaster. The horse did nothing wrong, but she got on and started kicking and jerking him around. Kicking him, and I would go so far as to say see sawing him to get his head down. Jerking his head to the inside and kicking him around. I was getting to the point that I was about to ask her to get off when she was announced that she couldn't figure out the problem. I finished that lesson, and since I was just starting school in a week or so I said I was too busy for lessons.

The worst part about this? My barn is usually very quiet with almost no one there, but EVERYONE was there today. The barn manager and her sister, farrier and his wife, another boarder and her daughter, the barn owner's daughter, and a friend of mine that also boards at my barn. I was absolutely mortified, and was desperately hoping that no one was watching and thinking that riding was what I sought out and that was what I called a lesson. Conveniently just about everyone was paying attention to the horse shoeing during that time period, and I explained the situation to the barn manager and my friend...

I would never be embarrassed by a dead beginner, provided that they weren't doing anything dangerous. Everyone has to start somewhere, and who's to say that you weren't being laughed at when you started riding I have an infamous picture in my archives from when I first started riding. I was in "two point" going over some trot poles with basically a hump back, puppy paws, totally pinching with my knees, and my toes pointed at the ground.
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post #8 of 27 Old 11-12-2013, 12:30 AM
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I get tense/aggrivated riding with those who jerk and kick, have no interest in a harmonious reationship with their horse... I usually don't hang around those types long enough to get embarrassed FOR their blatant ignorance. I find they're usually just as ignorant in too many other ways for me to enjoy them much, anyhow.

I get embarrassed about someone else's bad trail manners, if I'm bringing new riders together... But it's easy enough to keep myself on the considerate side of that fence and let them bumble on without me. :p

I'm quite lucky in that most of my friends are the kinds of riders/horsepeople I aspire to be, in one way or another.
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post #9 of 27 Old 11-12-2013, 03:37 AM
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I embarrassed myself by getting off out hunting to open a gate and my legs stopped working. Plop. Hi ground
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post #10 of 27 Old 11-12-2013, 04:40 AM
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I never really go riding with people who dont have as much or more experience than me, but i think i embarrassed myself quite a few times when i was younger. I didnt think much of it at the time, but now i think back and on earth did i find it hard to post to the trot :P i found the rhythm hard to keep up with, and couldnt keep with the beat. Yup, i wasnt much of a

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