Originally Posted by cowgirllinda1952 View Post
I used to have a boyfriend, he was in his 40's and never ridden before. He wanted to go riding with me, so someone loaned him a horse. He got on, and sat WAY back in the saddle, shoulders slumped way over with a rein held high in each hand, and would use the reins to pull the horse each way. We all tried to correct him, but he didn't want to hear it, no, he was going to ride his way. I was so embarrassed to be seen riding with him, and everyone was laughing at him.
Personally, I find my self respect and lack of embarrassment in me, and who I am. I don't think I pass that onto others. So for example if I am with someone who is disabled, my friends wouldn't laugh at them, or me. Nor would I feel uncomfortable.
I am very happily married to a 300lb man, and I love every inch of him. He has no interest in horses, other than supporting me in my interest.
If I had a Draft horse, I would never be embarrassed by him, ever, he is twice the man of those judging him, both in character and literally. And I tell you what, not one person viewing him would judge him or snicker twice, I can promise you that.
You are you, no? Or do you take your self worth from mean girls and the most miserable person you are around?