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post #91 of 132 Old 09-19-2013, 12:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Chessie View Post
Well, here's the deal,

You're a young guy, so I sense what you're really asking is "If I'm a cowboy, will girls like me?" Here's the trick.

Girls and women are not a monolith, and that's a good thing. You'd be surprised how many guys out there can't get that through their heads. Girls are people just like boys are people, and lots of different people like lots of different things. No matter what kind of guy you are, nerd, business guy, lawyer, cowboy, surfer, fireman, sports fan etc, there's a girl out there that probably thinks that's hot. Which is awesome.

If you're trying to find your identity and think "Guy who likes horses and rides" might fit into that identity enough to claim some sort of "cowboy" cred. Here's what you should keep in mind.

Girls have a fantasy about cowboys, and boys have a fantasy about cowboys. It is not wise to confuse the two and become the boys fantasy about cowboys.

Here's the difference. These are the things that are good about cowboys that most women I've met would agree are swoon-worthy qualities.

Integrity- A cowboys does what he says he's going to do and he does it with a sense of honor. A cowboy keeps his word.

Humility- A cowboy knows every once in a while a horse can and will put him in the dirt. These things happen so it's best to accept such faults and do your best in spite of them.

Work Ethic- Cowboys don't whine about things being difficult. They get the job done, no matter what that job takes.

Chivalry- Cowboys talk nice to their mamas, and don't mind opening the occasional door for a lady.

Manners- Cowboys know how to say , "Yes ma'am" and make it sound charming.

Care- Cowboys care for others, whether its the animals they work with or the people who are around them. Cowboys are there to help.

Resourcefulness- Give him a roll of duct tape and a stick, and then watch in awe.

Confidence- A cowboy never looks at his shoes and says, "Well, I don't know, I guess so."

If you asked me what was sexy about the cowboy mystique, that would be it, combined with a fantasy about a man that can cook over open fire while camping and going riding with me.

The problem is, the image of cowboys through the male lens is much different. It's rough and tough and no holds barred. Shoot em first, ask questions later, and get back in the kitchen and bring me a sammich, little lady. (Yeah, no.)

That's why you get these "cowboys" who are all cocky and full of it thinking that they're being some male fantasy come to life. They just chose the wrong fantasy, and now they're jerks. Don't be that guy.

I see nothing wrong in trying to find an identity though and attempting to parse out the goals of how to conduct yourself from the good that comes from that identity.

I'm all for it. Yay cowboys!
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post #92 of 132 Old 09-19-2013, 08:01 PM
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Originally Posted by DriftingShadow View Post
this thread had me laughing out loud at some parts!!

First of all though, lioness, WHERE ARE YOU FINDING THESE ATTRACTIVE FARRIERS?!?! There is a massive shortage on those in my town.

We dont have any cowboys down here in MS that I have met. We have a lot of those guys who WISH/THINK they were/are cowboys...but really they are loud, egotistical rednecks who occasionally hop on a horse and always wear a cowboy hat. ;)

Honestly, I've never been much for the 'cowboy' type stuff. Maybe it comes from growing up in the english discipline world but show me a man like this and my heart skips a beat. (I'm pretty sure I have an unhealthy crush...*sigh* ...)

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He just needs a different saddle (and a LOT more brim on that hat) and he'll be just as close as most "cowboys" you see now days , except that this gent is bit better dressed and would likely get more female attention at a barn dance than most "cowboys"

You'll know most of the people who have really rode cattle before (it's a saying....not actually "riding" them), because their like most Marines and Soldiers who look back on training. A time of fond memories (that they'd rather taking a beating then do it all again ). They sure aren't interested in doing it again . I know you'd have to pay me a LOT more than my tech job pays to have any hope of getting me to chase cattle (or dig fox holes) again. You could buy a ranch for less than I would charge

They're always going to be bigger and stronger so you better always be smarter. (One of my grandfather's many pearls of wisdom)
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LOL Love this thread!!! First guy I met that rode horses, wore tight jeans with a nice **** and a belt buckle and could pull a cowboy hat off I stole him in a heart beat!!! Best man I have ever had! Four years and three kids later and I wouldnt trade him for the world!! He is also my current farrier!!! Hehehe
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post #94 of 132 Old 09-19-2013, 11:07 PM
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Interesting and funny thread.

I am not sure if the question is do women love men dressed in cowboy attire, or do they love someone that is, by trade, a "cowboy"? There aren't many of the latter, per capita.

Anyway, I loved the most amazing and talented "cowboy" I ever knew, and was in awe of him. But not in a "amor" love sense, just as a person, a friend, an "icon". Just like horses are calmed by people they have confidence and trust in, so are people. A person you can depend on "like a rock" to always know what to do, and always seem calm in any situation is just inherently "attractive". That is a "person", not an attire.

As for just the stereotypical attire, it is very flattering on a male physique so - of course women are attracted to it. But, IMO, people are, in general, attracted to people that share their interests.

There is just as much horse sense as ever, but the horses have most of it.
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post #95 of 132 Old 09-20-2013, 11:31 PM
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I seem this thread the other day and skimmed over it, here is my take on the subject.

Someone said that girls like the idea of a cowboy, I agree.
But not only do you not only sign up for the guy but you sign up for the job/lifestyle. This is where the idea sounds good and seems romantic but the reality is a little harsh.

As for "cowboys" not wanting to date "cowgirls", that's B.S. my husband and I have the occupation and it works well and I will tell you why, mutual respect for the others abilities in the job! I don't tell my husband how to sort and he doesn't tell me how to start colts. Where I see the issue is when people want to dominate and not respect their partners strengths. Also leaving the job at the door. There is a time to be co- workers and then you have to turn that off and be partners at the end of the day and not take the work into the relationship.

And lastly cowboy ing is no different than any other profession, there are the good guys and then there are the wife beaters, thieves, and the wanna bes. Not all cowboys are virtuous. They may be able to work out pairs like a pro but it doesn't make him dateable. Not all of them are are bad either.

I lucked out. I found a really great guy that is a great cowboy. We respect our each other strengths in the job and help each other in our weaknesses. For you girls into farriers, he shoes my horses too! Lol! I got the best of both worlds :) he can be tough to work for but I figure if you can work on your husbands crew you can work on anyone's ;)
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post #96 of 132 Old 09-21-2013, 12:05 AM
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I dated a bullrider for awhile. It's definitely a lifestyle, but can be hard to keep up. He and his buddies (more like brothers) did everything with intensity, including falling in love. It was a whirlwind romance, a bit like the 8 Seconds storyline but (thankfully) without the super sad ending. We went our separate ways but I sure enjoyed the ride while it lasted.

The man I married has all the good qualities of a cowboy without any of the bad. He's built more like a jockey, though. :-D
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Speaking of trolling Walmart,Iwas in one once, and spotted this young cowboy, probably in his early 20's who had the nicest butt I have ever seen, in super tight Wranglers.
Speaking of farriers, I actually thought I was the only one with the naughty mind. We had a farrier once, he wore chaps, and I'll say this in a nice way, the chaps made him look super, super well endowed, and all us ladies talked about it!! And to me, there is noting sexier or more endearing than having a cute cowboy smile, and tip his hat at you!
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Like a couple of others said, women (I, at least,) love the idea of cowboys. But my dream guy would be sweet, smart, kind to animals, funny, etc., just also in some boots and dusty jeans and who works a ranch and wants to ride off into the sunset with me ;) There are just as few dreamy (to me) cowboys as non-cowboys. The image of a cowboy is attractive, but I would bet anything that if I went on a date with 10 guys dressed the same and it didn't know which were cowboys, I wouldn't be too likely to end up with one of the cowboys.

But if you gave me two guys with identical looks and personalities but one was a cowboy, heck yes, I'll take the cowboy ;)

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I feel like I have missed something all these years. I usually just looked at my, or whoever's, horse when a "non family/friend" male farrier has been about. Hmmm.

There is just as much horse sense as ever, but the horses have most of it.
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