I grew up riding horses. Was an excellent rider in my*'' prime. '' Got married... Had 3 amazing kids... Got divorced... Lol. So my youngest is now 8. Loves horses every bit as much as I do. Did the lesson thing... And purchased 2 horses.... The first is a highly trained 7 yr old gelding paint.... Hers.... The second is a 5 yr old greener qh mare.... Mine.
Anyway.... The paint is just a pain in the ****!! He refuses any direction from her..... And does ok with me but it's a CONSTANT battle. Have been doing ground work with him the past few days just to take off the edge and he somewhat '' charged'' me today while lunging!! Not in a dangerous way necessarily... But I was a little nervous. The whip didn't phase him....
No bite... No buck.... Just always trying to get the upper hand. A little aggravated by all this testing. Suggestions??
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My mare is incredibly dominant and constantly testing. She is the leader of every herd she is put with and rules with a proverbial iron hoof. She won't respect you unless you prove that you deserve it - you prove that you can take leadership and fight for your right to have it. Once you succeed she's more than happy to follow you... But taking it away from her is the tricky part.
The way we keep a happy relationship is I just can't let her get away with ANYTHING I didn't tell her to do. As we're walking, and I tell her to 'whoa,' if she doesn't immediately we back. Aggressively and quickly. And start over. If she's standing and she moves her hooves, she gets put back where she was. If she picks her head up too high, we stop and she has to lower it. It seems overboard, but it's a constant subtle reminder that hey, you listen to ME, not the other way around.
A few months back I had to call a trainer out because she was so herdbound I couldn't handle her, and she was becoming dangerous (and at 17 hands that's not okay). The trainer had her calm and licking in *minutes.* She watched how I handled her and told me I was letting her get away with too much. When I would tell her 'whoa' and be okay with her taking a few extra steps, she was getting the upper edge. She was deciding when to stop. Not me. Little things like that. After the trainer left that's all we did for two weeks... I'd halter her and starting in the pasture we'd walk, stop, back. Walk, stop, back. Walk, stop, start, back. Out of the pasture, around the arena, zig zagging about, and then mosey back to the pasture on MY terms. Just those three things, but she HAD to listen to me to be ready for what was coming next and do it to avoid reprimand.
She is now VERY good as stopping before I even give the command, and even though she occasionally lags with her backing (nothing a light tap with the crop on her legs won't fix) that lesson has been hammered into her, and when she has a lapse of judgement it doesn't take long to remind her that when she is with me she is NOT the herd leader.
So I'd advise to start there. Very basic commands, but very good to establish just who leads who.