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post #101 of 105 Old 05-27-2013, 08:52 AM
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Coming from a teenager owning her own horses, I can honestly say it is far from easy, however, you can't put the blame on other people when problems arise.

Going to school, having horses, and working a job isn't fun, but it's necessary if you want to own horses.

IMHO, if you can not support this horse, then it would be in the horse's best interest to sell it.

Thank you for feeding us years of lies. Thank you for the wars you left us to fight. Thank you for the world you ruined overnight. But we'll be fine, yeah we'll be fine.
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post #102 of 105 Old 05-28-2013, 01:45 AM
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I truly feel that in this case, we really don't have all the facts. I feel like there is a big chunk missing. I'm immediately suspicious. I just don't get it. Did you grow up with your dad? I know you said you were taken away from your mother.

I let my oldest daughter get a horse...once she had proven that she knew what was involved and could do it. We have been keeping horses together for a few years now. Sometimes we butt heads and disagree about things. That is one thing. If my daughter ever came at me with a contract, I would be beyond offended. Her horse would be on the short bus to the glue factory.

I can't exactly tell what your relationship with your father is. However, if he is helping at all with this horse, then I wouldn't suggest that you ask him to sign a contract. It will do nothing but make him mad.

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post #103 of 105 Old 05-28-2013, 09:28 AM
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My first husband was exactly like the OP's father - there are thousands of them out there all the same. he skipped out on us, avoided paying any maintenance, my current husband raised my son and has funded him and supported him like his own.
At various times he'd have 'guilt trips' and offer to buy him things, get involved with things, take him out, build his hopes up and then let him down for us to have to pick up the pieces again and again
After each time he's get angry and full of hate just like the OP has and then it would wash over and he'd forgive him only to get hurt all over again - its his father, he wants him to love him and even now he's much older than this girl he still hopes he'll change
I have a close friend who's 60 and she still lives in hope that her 87 year old mother will find a way to love her instead of rejecting her for no reason and messing with her head all her life
I've had quite a lot of contact on threads with this OP and she is NOT a troll and this is totally not how she usually is, she put a huge amount of effort and devotion into her riding and the horses she deals with
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post #104 of 105 Old 05-28-2013, 03:14 PM
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Originally Posted by Misty'sGirl View Post
Sorry, I should'nt have said "hardly anyone". That wasn't thought out. But I work in tourism and it amazes me some of the comments we get from SOME international guests. Like saying "After I've finished here in Tasmania I'm going to Australia!" And they're shocked when we point out that Tasmania IS in Australia My favourite one would be a lovely man who was convinced that Tasmania is in Africa and that the Australian state is actually Tanzania. So I didn't mean it as a generalization, I was typing quickly, but I mean that in my experience living here a large number of people from outside Australia don't realise we exist Sorry for any offence, it wasn't intended that way, it was typed quickly without thought.
No worries, Misty'sGirl. Many, many years ago, when I was at school in England, my friend Pauline Skipper and her family, moved to Tasmania. Years later I thought of trying to look her up, but she would be married now with a different name. Don't know if she had any brothers who might have carried the name on. However, if you ever do come across any "Skippers" over there, do ask if they have a Pauline in their family, who came from Norwich, England. It certainly would be fun to find her again. She'd be about 72 now.

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post #105 of 105 Old 05-28-2013, 04:46 PM
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