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post #81 of 105 Old 05-27-2013, 02:25 AM Thread Starter
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It all sounds a bit tough. I know some people think the OP isn't coming across well, but being 16 can be super hard.

Once you're an adult and you have the opportunity to make your own choices at least you can be responsible for your life, but as a kid your power pretty much rests in what your parents have and what they will do for you, or let you do. So while it's really easy to say that people should pay for all their own horses, not expect anything from there parents, well that might work well and fine in some places and families, but mostly I think its people expecting adult behaviour in people who frankly aren't adults. They don't have the opportunities, the means or responsibility of adults.

It sucks that your dad said he'd do all these things and he didn't. My family used to say they'd do things, but when the time came they wouldn't. In the end I'd hope for their help, but plan not to get it. And that's the best way to do things. Plan for the scenario that you can control and that you are responsible for, and anything else extra you get is a bonus.

You don't need vet insurance, I've had horses for many years and never had it, and few people with horses under $5000 or so have it. Just not worth it. Especially if your horse already has problems.

Second thing is, being a minor you can't actually own a horse, so the horse is your parents/guardians whether they like it or not. In that way they are responsible for the horse's care.

In a way owning a horse at your age isn't the greatest of ideas anyway. At your age you can make your own decisions but don't have the means to shape your world. You've got a lot of school work and a lot riding on how well you do. You have a future that you have to choose and work towards and for the next few years its going to be all work and no money. So consider if it's worth all this trouble. If you lease out or sell your horse would you be able to use someone else's horse on weekends or something?
probably get a ride every while and than from friends, but if i do a half lease ill be able to keep my horse because ill be able to save up for Vet Bills, it just depends who would want to lease her, and the leasee would have to have some experience with horses and suit the type of horse i have.

I do have a friend that asked her neighbor (which i know), if i could agist at her horse property, it would probably be less expensive than the agistment i am currently on it also has good fencing and pasture.

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Is this the same horse you are jumping in your profile pic? If so from the injury you are describing that's probably not a good idea.

A lot of people in life will disappoint you. There is nothing you can do to control the actions of others, the only thing that you can do is control what you do.

I understand that kids whose parents are not ideal often want them to change. But, that doesn't often happen. I think that maybe your frustration and realization was coming out in this post.

But I think it would benefit you to keep your emotions in check a little, and watch how you words things.
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post #83 of 105 Old 05-27-2013, 02:38 AM Thread Starter
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Is this the same horse you are jumping in your profile pic? If so from the injury you are describing that's probably not a good idea.
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A lot of people in life will disappoint you. There is nothing you can do to control the actions of others, the only thing that you can do is control what you do.

I understand that kids whose parents are not ideal often want them to change. But, that doesn't often happen. I think that maybe your frustration and realization was coming out in this post.

But I think it would benefit you to keep your emotions in check a little, and watch how you words things.


No thats not the same horse, yea should have written post not this way to late now, ill probably learn soon to not put my life problems on the internet any more though.

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Do you think if i make her safe to be ridden with and around children she may find a good home ? With the tilted pelvis thing. She has been used as a lead rein pony, and trail ride horse but im not sure if its better to advertise as a paddock pet/companion because if she all of a sudden went lame than people could say that i lied about her.
A great vet question :) the little mare that flunked the exam still makes a great riding horse- being denied insurance doesn't mean your horse might not be useable. Admittedly, I'm not a professional. I would start writing any questions down to ask the vet when you see them!
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No thats not the same horse, yea should have written post not this way to late now, ill probably learn soon to not put my life problems on the internet any more though.
I tend to put all kinds of stuff on FB. Some people don't choose to, I don't much care.

However you have to be aware of your audience, there are a great many parents here who are working hard to provide horses for their kids. And they expect their kids to behave in acceptable ways because of that.

I'd like to think that you were just having a bit of a freak out as you suddenly realized that all the stuff you have heard about your Dad probably has some truth to it.
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No thats not the same horse, yea should have written post not this way to late now, ill probably learn soon to not put my life problems on the internet any more though.
Young lady some of the readers and posters on this thread are very old when looked at through the eyes of a 16 year old.

I from the age of 6 years on, had the life you discribed. I'm a rising 65year old and work in an industry that has to pick up the pieces of those that fall by the wayside. I never have, and never will, allow someone to blame their childhood for their present situation and behavour, it is not an excuse for bad behavour, you make the choice in how you react to a given problem.

We all feel for you, but sit down, take the emotion out of the problem, and then you will be able to arrive at a conclusion that will give you answers and better understand of the other persons feelings. You should have noticed through this thread others have reacted to you in the manner you have stated your problem. Like attracts Like.

Good luck to you kido.


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i know plenty of adults that are know it alls and act younger then teens, i dont think dissing teenagers is very fair
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In most social groups in the animal kingdom, take horses for example, younger members learn how to behave but the repremands of their elders. I am not saying one person is higher then another but at 16 what might seem a big issue now can be nothing in a few years time when you become more exposed to the ills of the world.

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post #90 of 105 Old 05-27-2013, 04:43 AM
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ahh yeah i can understand that:)
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