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post #1 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 03:33 AM Thread Starter
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Feeling a little sad =(

I guess I'm feeling sad cause I feel like I'm never going to get to should my horse. I feel like I'm going to be riding in my ex trainers ex in laws back yard forever. I just don't know to get myself into showing. Ever chance I got to show when the ex trainer was still there, were ruined each time by said ex trainer. For no other reason than she was jealous of my horse Shaggy and was afraid we would beat her daughter and the mare she rode at the time. I honestly believe that she was mad that I bought Shaggy and she didn't but oh well thats in the past. I just wish I knew how to go about getting myself to a show. Im too old 4h stuff now and thats the only local stuff I know of. I don't know if there are any breed shows around either. Guess i've babbled enough. Thanks to anyone who decided to read this.

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post #2 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 04:45 AM Thread Starter
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wow 28 people view this and say nothing. That really makes a person whose feeling sad feel better. Thats the horse forum for you I guess.

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post #3 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 05:00 AM
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Here in Australia we don't have 4H at all and there were always plenty of shows for me to go to.

I know your feeling a bit sad, but that does you no good. The choices you made led you to where you are today. If you don't like where you are then make different choices. Move your horse for one. Find somewhere else to keep it.

The best bet I think would be to join an adult riding club. They'll have schooling days and probably some shows too, and even if they don't there will probably be many people there who do amateur showing.
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post #4 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 05:12 AM
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Firstly, as someone who has only shown her horses twice and both are horses I no longer own... I can sympathise... I have wanted to show for some time but have had legitimate issues that stopped my attempts over the last few years... however this season I will endeavour to get out to at least one with my mare, as I'm currently setting up my show kit.

Anyway, like Saskia mentioned, there are always options if you wish to do something. Look in the newspapers, over here most shows are advertised in the papers, and I'm sure that'd be the case elsewhere. Also online, local communities will be able to offer information. Check in tack/feed shops and ask your friends.

Allowing a past experience with an ex trainer/person in your life to stamp out any chance of showing isn't something you should do. And getting sad isn't helpful... rather get proactive if its something you want to do. Make plans and stick to them.

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post #5 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 10:21 AM
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If ex trainer is a problem then you are allowing her to control you. Is this what you want? Obviously not. It is easy to allow small roadblocks to become huge ones as the mind plays games with our thinking but you can overcome these. Don't look at the past as it brings up petty feelings. Focus on where you are going and how to get there.

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post #6 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 10:33 AM
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What is it you want people to tell you? It's obvious you're blaming others for your own inability to get off your duff and do something about your situation. I guess it's just easier to whine about it than actually take charge of your own riding/showing.

Oh, and I don't believe for one second that your ex-trainer 'kept' you from showing or was jealous of you and your horse. Again, blaming someone else for your own failings. If you were truly determined to show you'd have made it happen, not expect others to take care of everything for you.

You always seem to have a 'poor little me' attitude. Nobody owes you anything. If you want something badly enough, you'll make it happen. If that means you have to wait until you're an adult and do all the work yourself, so be it. It'll help you grow up and learn to take responsibilty for your own happiness.

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post #7 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 11:23 AM
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You have to make small goals and consider each small goal that you reach an accomplishment.

I want to team pen. I have several obsticals in my way. I am slowly reaching my goal. Do I have a truck and trailer and a team and have entered in the circuit and have the money?


But my horse is being retrained. I just bought the saddle I would need for the sport. I may have found one partner, and I'm looking to possibly rent out a barn.

Small, itsy bitsy steps. Altogether, I may be ready by next summer. MAYBE. But it doesn't matter, because each accomplishment gained makes me excited because I WORKED to get there, and its one more step to what I want to do.

I don't expect someone to train my horse for me, or buy me the saddle I want. I don't blame my BO for now owning cows to work and I don't blame anyone for not buying me a truck and trailer. It will all come if I work hard enough for it. Not until then, though.
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post #8 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 11:52 AM
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Check into the 4H horse shows. A lot of times they will be "open" shows not just limited to 4H only. And, you can ask at them if there ARE any open shows around. Shows are kinda few and far between out here too unless I wanna pay gas to drive 3 hours or more away.
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I am Shaggy you are going through this

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post #10 of 26 Old 09-02-2012, 05:57 PM
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Shaggy! If you plan on meeting me at Grand Nationals in 2013, then start your research and training TODAY! First, Id recc you get on amha.com and learn alll the rules and regs weve got in our breed shows. Watch every you tube vid on Morgan Grand National, you will learn a lot just by seeing how and what the shows are like. Find yourself a new trainer that knows the Morgan circuit.

Then PM me and ill tell ya everything I know.

2013 girlfriend!!

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