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post #1 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 05:57 PM Thread Starter
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I'm new to this forum, so hopefully I posted this in the right section.
Anyway, I know the title "Friendless" may seem strange for someone who has a horse, but that's how I feel.
This isn't about my relationship with my horse, that's a completely different story.
When I got my first horse I thought that I would immediately be adopted into the circle of "horse people".
My assumptions were proven wrong, nobody notices me more because I have a horse.
So my question is, how do I get into a circle of like-minded horse people?
I know that there is several girls my age who have horses and ride together, but I just don't know them, and I hate to force my
company on someone. I also am home-schooled, so I am at home ALL day.
Like literally no social interaction.
Not that I need a lot of friends, (I'm an introvert.) but I want some people who could ride with me and give me advice.
I slightly know a couple girls, but one is married and doesn't really have time for me, the other has a bf, and I've only met her once. (both are in our town's "horse clique."
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post #2 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 06:10 PM
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Yeah, it's kind of hard to make friends in the best circumstances but you really have to try as you don't go to school where people are kind of forced on you. Are you on any kind of social media sights? FB or whatever? Maybe you can get together with girls there and set up riding days.

Just keep on riding and the rest will come eventually.
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post #3 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 06:12 PM
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Is there a riding "club?" A group that sponsors trail rides or clinics. Even if you aren't particularly interested, it's good to see other things and may increase your network.

Volunteer with an instructor? Volunteer at shows?

I hope you meet some good people. They do exist.
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post #4 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 06:22 PM
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No one at my school cared that I had a horse. In fact, most of them found it annoying when I mentioned it. What helped was joining Pony Club. I had some really great times at meetings, different events and activities, and doing a summer day camp with them. If there's Pony Club or 4H or something like that that you could join, that would probably help a lot!!

Is it also possible that there are other girls who are feeling the same way? Maybe if you asked some of the quieter people if they're interested in riding with you, you might be pleasantly surprised.
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post #5 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 06:40 PM
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Hi & welcome!

Yeah, the social side of 'home schooling' can be problematic...

I haven't been there, but I have moved to a different place where I don't know anyone, don't have anyone to ride with (except my kids, which is great, but... ) I put it out there on the local horsey FB pages that I was looking for new horsey mates to trail ride with. I met a couple of nice people that way. We were hoping for other teen riders too, for my kids, but that didn't eventuate. You'd think going to a country high school there'd be many horse riders, but seems most of them just spend their weekends on their iphones...

At any rate, an internet forum doesn't exactly compare, but the community here is great, there are also many teens & young adults for you to become 'virtual' friends with. And depending where you are in the world, you might even find locals here to meet with in person.

*NB for the sake of internet safety & privacy, if you're going to try online to meet people, just give your area or such, not address, full name etc.
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post #6 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 06:57 PM
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I think there are a number of teens on this forum who are home schooled -- you might try posting in teen talk? At least you could have some online friends. That's a start!
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post #7 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 07:43 PM
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At the barn, I'd suggest just being friendly and making small talk with them If you can. Compliments too tend to go a long way :) but generally keep to yourself and let them come to you. Some people will be more talkative and others may stay distant, so get a feel for when people are open to talk and when they aren't (short answers, uninterested). Then when you get to know them well enough, ask them if they would like to join you for a trail ride or something.

I also think that joining some different clubs, clinics or volunteering in horse orientated activities will help you meet people. It might take a while for some to warm up to you, but just be friendly with them every time you see them and ask a few questions so they get to know you. I find generally, most people are open to talk about their horse and riding discipline/ accomplishments at the start.
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post #8 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 08:09 PM
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Oh, and Welcome to the forum!!
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post #9 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 08:34 PM
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Welcome. I would suggest you have made a smart move joining here. This can fill some voids as well as a source of information. Unfortunately I don't have any suggestions, but as you already have found out many here do and will. There is also a teen forum under life beyond horses that may help as well.

All the best to you.
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post #10 of 37 Old 03-18-2019, 11:39 PM
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I just wish we lived near each other, because I'd sign up to be your horsey friend, in a heartbeat! We'd be a strange pair, though, as I'm so old, and you so young. But, hang in there. Horses have been the glue for almost ALL of my friendships!
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