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post #21 of 37 Old 03-19-2019, 10:53 AM
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When I was in school, nobody really cared that I had a horse either. Most people at my HS/college didn't ride. One girl I knew did, but we didn't ride together or anything.

You always have your forum friends...I have more HF friends than I do in real life!
It's OK not to have a lot of horse friends...the few people at my barn, I'm cool with, but I don't become super close with anyone. I've learned my lessons...hard to trust people.
Age also doesn't matter. My ex-BFF was like 40, & I'm 27. We always rode together.

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post #22 of 37 Old 03-19-2019, 11:10 AM
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I have not yet read pages 2&3, but, do you have trails? A truck and trailer? Are you at the barn at a different time than they are?

If you have trails, suggest a trail ride. If you have a truck and trailer, invite some to go to some horse trails, or if you are barn bound, set up a little schooling show, and you need their help.

Organize a “Kentucky Derby Party” or a horsey Easter Egg Hunt.

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post #23 of 37 Old 03-19-2019, 11:14 AM
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What part of TN? I am in Southern KY!! I have a young home-schooled girl boarding at my barn, AND 8 home schooled children across the street who are horsey!!

Come on up and we will ride!

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post #24 of 37 Old 03-19-2019, 02:27 PM
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Do you have a local trail rider association? If so, you could probably join it, and they would also know of folks your age and skill level, or even invite you along on their group events.

Also what sort of riding to you do there in TN where you are located? Rodeo? Playdays are a good place to go and meet people too, especially the young 'uns. Even if you don't enter any of the events, most rodeo arenas are completely fine with those of us who turn out just to sit around on our horses and watch other people compete.

I'm with @tinyliny . Wish you lived closer, I'd be your horse buddy too! Strange pair or not, the simple fact is that horses bring together really diverse groups of people. It's a wonderful thing to be able to honestly say I'm 46 and I have 'horse friends' who are 11, and some who are 70 and all ages in between. In some ways, horses strip away much of our social constructs and force us to just be when we're in their company. And when we just be, age differences don't matter nearly as much. ;)

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post #25 of 37 Old 03-20-2019, 02:09 AM
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Originally Posted by egrogan View Post
@tinyliny , I'm nearing 40, and the best riding buddy I've had is in her mid-80s (and a far better rider than me!). I think horses are great uniters.

Welcome to the forum @AQHBAY ! I agree with what others have suggested- try to find a trails club, consider volunteering at a therapeutic riding barn (search on for a program near you), and consider 4-H/Pony Club. This forum is great for meeting new people all over the world.
That is me! I met my best friend at a boarding barn, 4 years ago! I am now 32 and she's 66, a year younger than my mom (who she's also now friends with). It's crazy, horses bonded us, but our friendship became really close and goes way beyond horses. We have a lot of similar interests as well.

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post #26 of 37 Old 03-20-2019, 07:14 AM
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Originally Posted by egrogan View Post
@tinyliny , I'm nearing 40, and the best riding buddy I've had is in her mid-80s (and a far better rider than me!). I think horses are great uniters.
Let me be the first to congratulate you on your approaching milestone of becoming a Zen Goddess of Extraordinary Wisdom.

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post #27 of 37 Old 03-20-2019, 01:24 PM
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I feel for you and have been there too. When I finally moved my horses to my property, I actually wanted to start going places and doing stuff with them.
First thing I did was sign up for lessons. Granted, I haven't met anyone at that barn that I can trail ride with. But the people are nice and there are familiar faces if I ever started showing.

I've also met people in the area by attending a couple horse clinics.

Then I started searching for FB groups. THAT is where I found the people that I can go trail riding with. I have made quite a few contacts through that group...and in exchanging phone numbers I can usually just shoot someone a text to organize a ride.

I'm a bit of an introvert as well - and had to really step outside my comfort zone to find folks to ride with. I'm so glad I did though.
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post #28 of 37 Old 03-20-2019, 02:03 PM
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I'm in TN as well! Always looking for new horse friends to ride with (if close enough).
Never be scared to send someone a text and ask to ride! Everyone wants a riding buddy, so don't be scared to reach out. More often than not, you will get a "Sure! When?" and then it's just setting dates and times
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post #29 of 37 Old 03-20-2019, 02:34 PM
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Girl, I feel ya. It can be hard to make friends in new circles, but keep in mind that most riders are always looking for a riding buddy! Be brave and strike up conversations with others. One of the best ways to do this is by complimenting their steed and asking questions about them. Sometimes it can take a while. Also, maybe look into Facebook. I don't know about your area but where I live there are many pages for local horse people or riding groups that you could get involved in. Just put your feelers out. :)

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post #30 of 37 Old 03-20-2019, 05:48 PM
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First off, I don't know your age, and it doesn't matter. Being an introvert, as I was when much younger, can be overcome. I still don't have a lot of close friends, but the ones I do have, I can count on.
You also didn't say whether your horse is on your property or boarded. If it's on your property, as others have said, social media may be one way to meet like minded individuals, but, also be careful. If you're boarding, You may have to step outside your comfort zone and introduce yourself to at least one of them. Just look for the one that seems most approachable.

You have gotten a lot of info and suggestions in this thread, keep alert, reach out a little, and be careful.

Horses do bring like minded people together, and age isn't a barrier, and they can help you to meet new friends.
Keep riding, asking questions, and learn how close we all can become.
Best of luck,

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