I ask if I want advice. If i don't want advice I dont need advice. I never asked her to tell me should I watch horse racing. She gives advice wether I ask or not and its really anoying when I don't even ask for advice for something.
She probably just feels passionately about her position and figures if she says it often enough you'll "get it" and she'll have done well by you and her beliefs about horses/horse racing/and breeding.
Nagging is a pain, but for some people (me included
) it's hard to believe that we can't convince someone of our perfectly right point of view
, if we just say it enough times till we land on the right way to say it to be understood.
I agree with the agree to disagree folks. Find out if horse racing and breeding are deal breakers for her when it comes to the friendship. If she can live with having a friend into horse racing and breeding her own horse, then promise each other to never
bring up the topics again (and that includes you not casually mentioning a great race you saw, or plans to build barn stalls perfect to house a pregnant mare, etc.)
Also, you may want to consider if this friendship is worth keeping for you
. If you get more grief than benefit, it may be time to move on.