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post #1 of 7 Old 11-10-2009, 09:04 PM Thread Starter
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Frustration, Imapatience...etc.

Hey guys!

Who here is impatient and easily frustrated? I know I am! You know how everyone says horses teach you patience? The truth is, you are forced to learn patience when around horses LOL! So yes, technically, they do.

I really get irritated when I'm riding and my horse isn't paying attention, or my legs are horrible, or something along those lines. Instead of taking a deep breath like I should, I usually get frustrated and kick or pull, so in turn my horse pays for it. That is NOT fair! I feel so terrible and get mad at myself after, but I just can't realize that WHILE I'm riding. I will never get better, be postitive or confident, if I am always impatient. It is easier to get mad instead of calm down, and my parents say it's a "decision" to be patient. What the heck is that supposed to mean?! LOL!

Any tips on learning patience and staying calm when things don't work out right away?

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post #2 of 7 Old 11-10-2009, 09:15 PM
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i used to get MAD na dyank on my horses face... I FELL TERRIBLE ABOTU DOING ANYTHING LIEK THAT NOW! well... everytime i feel like im getting frusterated i just take a walk brake, haha soemtimes you might have to almost smack yourself in the face to calm down and take a walk but it helps, and jsut think about what your doing and how you could nicely do it.

there are only two emotions that beliong in the saddle: a sense of humor and patience-unkown

no i usually just laugh at myself when i simply cannot get anything done. lol

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post #3 of 7 Old 11-10-2009, 09:43 PM
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I understand what your folks are saying - patience is a decision you make. It's a decision NOT to loose your temper, but to do something proactive instead. What I do when I feel frustrated and like I want to act out because of it (not just with horses, but with family, friends, customers in the store, anything!)is I say to myself "Is this going to help? Is this this going to make me feel better in the long run?" It works well for me. I guess the key is to recognize the signs that you are getting to the point of acting out and stopping before you act. Sometimes just a pause for a second or so can give you new insight and the ability to find a new way to tackle the problem at hand.
It happens to all of us - frustration that is. it's a part of life. It's how we deal with it that will make or break you. Good luck!

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post #4 of 7 Old 11-11-2009, 07:08 PM Thread Starter
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Yeah, today my friend was driving me nuts and I was like I'm going to be patient and it worked! LOL! Afterwards I was like, WHOA I didn't kill her lol!
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post #5 of 7 Old 11-11-2009, 08:58 PM
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I had a ride the other day were i got so frustrated that i made something a much bigger deal then it should have been. I was so upset that i jumped off and walked around the ring until i was more ... calm? When i got back on, i had a few more moments were my horse would act stupid and i had to remind myself to relax and just breathe.

Most times i am able to say that i remain calm or can ignore the silly stuff. I have definitely become more relaxed, allowing things to happen. Still have a lot of work though...
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post #6 of 7 Old 11-11-2009, 09:11 PM Thread Starter
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I totally know what you mean juju. I have had rides where I actually got off and was done. (probably better for my horse...) I told myself today, that from here on out, I will not get frustrated and will DEFINITELY not take it out on my poor man! Yeah...well see how this goes lol!
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post #7 of 7 Old 11-11-2009, 09:14 PM
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I used to be the same way. Now I just sit back and think "What am I doing wrong?"
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