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post #1 of 6 Old 11-01-2013, 03:50 PM Thread Starter
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Getting attatched to your lease horse

I don't lease a horse, although I am considering leasing mine out while i am at college. However my friend has leased two horses in the past and is currently leasing one now. She was heartbroken both times when the leases ended and it makes me wonder how its possible to NOT get attached to your lease horse. Has anyone ever been really attached to their lease horse and all of a sudden they were gone and you didn't know what to do? It makes me scared wondering if I lease my horse out if i'm just going to break some young girls heart
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post #2 of 6 Old 11-01-2013, 04:34 PM
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i am on my second lease this year and although it was difficult to let go of the first lease, the barn that horse was at was just too far away and there were some other reasons i chose to end the lease (absolutely nothing to do with the horse or his owner! i just couldn't see myself being at that barn any longer and owner was not going to move the horse elsewhere for my lease).

my current lease, there are many aspects of him that remind me so much of my old gelding that i had to give up when i was 20 years old. it really is uncanny! and i'm boarding him at the same barn i kept my old gelding at for many years too. it is like coming back home. i hug my lease horse, and tell him i love him (which i do, but horses are darn easy to love, eh? lol), and i truly feel he is a good match for me in the now, but i also know he is not the horse to take me where i want to go someday, he is not my 'perfect horse', and he belongs to somebody else. i'm borrowing him and i know one day i will be giving him back to his owner. keeping all that i just typed in the forefront of my mind helps a lot! i am attached to my lease horse, but attached for today and yesterday more than tomorrow.

i think what would help you when you lease out your horse, is to have a set time frame for the lease. that way both you and the person leasing know exactly when the lease starts and ends, and then both parties can plan around that. for instance, my lease is on 6 month terms. at the end of January (end of the first 6 months), i decide if i want to continue leasing this gelding or if i want to hand him back to his owner. i think it's a good time frame, 6 months allows somebody to get to know your horse well, and decide if they get on well enough with them for longer leasing past the initial 6 months.
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post #3 of 6 Old 11-01-2013, 04:36 PM
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Yes it happens a lot. However, often it's a choice between a kid leasing a horse or having no horse so regardless of the sadness when it's over, they still want to do it.
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post #4 of 6 Old 11-01-2013, 05:10 PM
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I definitely became attached to my lease horse of 6 months, and I'm a 34 year old woman ;) It's just par for the course when it comes to us horse crazy girls, lol. We found our groove together, both learned form the experience, and now we've moved on - it's life.

Be glad if anyone leasing your horse bonds with him - you'll know he'll be well taken care of :)
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post #5 of 6 Old 11-02-2013, 07:43 PM
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[QUOTE]and I truly feel he is a good match for me in the now, but I also know he is not the horse to take me where I want to go someday, he is not my 'perfect horse', and he belongs to somebody else[\QUOTE]

This. Exactly. I love my boy into teeny tiny pieces and I would hate to give him up. It would devastate me. But I know he is not mine and I will not have him forever. Sometimes, though, it's just too easy to forget.

And it's not your fault if someone's heart beaks. Make sure you let the leasor know that this is just temporary and that at some point you will have to take the horse back. Once you've let he/she know this then they may or may not fall in love with the horse...and there is nothing you can do about it. You and the leasor know the terms of the arrangement and they cannot be changed. You can't just sell/indefinitely lease YOUR horse because someone else likes the horse.....stand up for yourself! The horse is yours, no matter how much someone else likes him/her.
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post #6 of 6 Old 11-02-2013, 09:54 PM
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It's not your risk to take or consider. Everyone leasing a horse is very aware that it's not their horse and that things can change at anytime and they may not ever see the horse again. It's one of the downsides to leasing.
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