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post #1 of 8 Old 12-19-2017, 02:28 PM Thread Starter
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I'm sure I am not the only one who has experienced this, but I live a pretty friendless life and so I wanted to know if anyone else experiences this? This is also a pretty personal discussion, I'm revealing a lot about myself that I prefer to keep hidden most of the time...

One of the reasons that I am so gun-ho about helping Tyra and her rehab (which seems neverending!) is because I firmly believe that without her I would not be here right now. I have quite a few emotional issues, mental health issues and the like, and I can come down with serious bouts of depression, anxiety, and other problems. I've never fit in with humans, and I've always struggled to "get" social stuff, and so I can't really integrate that well with people who are not horse people...

I feel that I wouldn't have nearly as many friends or opportunities to meet people if it weren't for Tyra. She has given me my will to live back, and I feel the least I can do for her is help her on the road to her physical and mental recovery from whatever black hole she lived in for so long. I owe it to her, after everything she's given me, the best possible care I can provide. I know, I'm a bit leery on vets, but what I CAN do is educate myself in all things equine medicine so that I can put MYSELF to the best use I can, and then when things get beyond what I can give, I call in the big guns. That's also why I am so passionate about DIY care for my horse, as it gives me a reason and an excuse to learn a lot of horsemanship skills my friends do not possess.

I am so incredibly grateful for what this horse has given me. There isn't a single moment when I stop loving her or rethink my decision to buy her. I just wanted to know if anyone else felt that way about their horse, or maybe a special horse who gave them a part of themselves they thought they'd lost forever?

It was also because of her that I started my weight loss journey. I've lost 40 lbs and am now 138. Still have a bit to go, but I couldn't have done it without her.
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post #2 of 8 Old 12-19-2017, 02:44 PM
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I definitely have experienced this. My mule, Buddy, helped me get through a very dark time in my life. I was suffering from PTSD from a bad accident that could have killed me, and I became very depressed and somewhat agoraphobic. For a long time, I found it extremely difficult to go out at night by myself, and I couldn’t be alone for long periods of time.

When I got him, he needed someone to love and pay attention to him as much as I needed something outside myself to care for. I got better at driving in the dark, being able to go out by myself, and breaking through the fear and panic attacks I’d previously been having so I could go spend time with him. He was truly a gentle soul, and I definitely feel as though he was my heart horse.

I do understand having few friends. I am definitely an introvert – I can spend days and days alone, just puttering around in my own space with my critters, and be totally happy. I’ve met a lot of very good friends in the horse world, and I really feel like caring for equines is a community job. At some point, you’re going to need help, expertise, and some days a shoulder to cry on when you have a horse, especially if you are trying to achieve any sort of goals. Horse people can be some of the best and some of the worst people you’ve ever dealt with, depending on the situation. The key is to learn to recognize and keep the good ones in your life!

I will say that it is good to know all you can about equine medicine, but as with plumbing and electrical work, sometimes it’s best to just call a professional before a small problem becomes a bigger one. Along with your knowledge base, you have to develop a very clear sense of “This is beyond the scope of what I can handle” so you are not allowing pride or personal feelings to affect the care of your horse.
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post #3 of 8 Old 12-19-2017, 02:44 PM
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almost all of my friends are based around horses. Best people ever!

we have an instant 'core' to talk about; horses!

yes, and any day spent at the barn makes me a better person when I come home. I'm not so sure I 'give back' to horses. fortunately, they don't keep score.
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@Mulefeather , completely agree about the vet expertise! I think I've finally found a vet I can trust. In my discipline you call the vet for everything, from a single scrape and a sneeze to a broken leg. ANYTHING that seems off warrants an immediate vet call, and no one tries to educate themselves. I think that is the struggle and annoyance I have with my discipline and some of my friends who are trigger-happy with their phone and have the vet on speed dial for every boo boo :(
@tinyliny , they don't keep score thank GOSH! I don't think my mare cares if I put a custom saddle on her or a cheap saddle, as long as it fits! xD
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I'm a lot like you, @thecolorcoal . I have problems with depression, anxiety, and other stuff like that, including having self-esteem way down in the dirt.

For the longest time, I didn't have any friends at all. Then I got closer with an acquaintance when we got to know each other a bit better, and realized we both had the same interests, horses being among them. We're now pretty good friends, getting together often to ride together.

Her friendship helped me, socially, and I met another person I clicked with, who is now my best friend.

If it hadn't been for horses (and dogs and goats for that matter) I'd still know almost nobody, and I'd likely hide by the computer all day.

People tend not to realize it, but animals help socially awkward people in every possible way, and trust me, I used to be more than socially awkward!
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Once again the quote " There is something about the outside of a horse that is good for the inside of man" fits perfectly.

I am glad you have her. And she, you.

I'm glad you found the forum as well.

I don't mean to assume, speak out of turn, or anything of that nature. Please keep up with the issues you mentioned about yourself. I mention because I care. So do others here, and you will find support in that area just as fast a horse related one. But as important as it is, not the same as professional help.

You obviously have a lot of good things about you. Keep working and I'm sure you will see some great things for you and her. All the best.

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@aubie , I appreciate the advice. I've done therapy in the past and I found it of no benefit. If you do not utilize therapists to their full, they are almost a waste of money, and I refused to talk to the therapist about my problems, so I have chosen not to go down that route as I know I will not gain any help, simply because I choose not to participate.

Thanks @JoBlueQuarter , that's a super sweet story :) my new barn is very small, only five other people, and I always feel left out because I am the youngest and the newest... but hopefully in time I will become one of the gang.
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post #8 of 8 Old 12-20-2017, 12:30 AM
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I have a love and admiration for horses that can't be put into words so although I haven't needed them to provide me with a social life they have provided me with many more things and yes, sometimes new friends as well. It just makes me happy when I hear a person's story that reflects that deeper understanding of what a relationship with your horse can be and not just use them as a means to an end.

R.I.P. JC 5/19/85 - 12/9/14. You made my life better.
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