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post #1 of 8 Old 01-11-2011, 08:44 PM Thread Starter
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Giving horse back

So I think I have decided not to keep my horse. He's a three year old Standardbred I got on a years trial/lease from a Standardbred rehoming organisation. I've been out of horses for around three years, and I stopped riding before because I lost my confidence after a couple of bad falls. I thought that if I got a young horse and worked with it, as I got to know it my confidence would come back (I've worked with young ones before). This weekend I was "commandeered" by my Pony Club as they were in desperate need to have another associate rider and they supplied me with a horse and everything. He was a nice 14.2hh Quarter Horse, a little goey but overall a great horse. It took all my confidence to get on that horse, and if people hadn't been there watching me I don't know if I would have got on. Even on the second and third day it took a lot for me to get back on. Once I got to know the horse, and rode a bit I felt better and it all kept getting easier. I realised that I'm never going to have enough confidence to ride a young, untrained horse. Even if I got him broken I don't think I would ever feel safe enough to ride.

Samson is great, and he's been ready to get on for about a month or so now, but I keep putting it off. I've done heaps of groundwork, he wears all his gear, pretty well voice commanded but I just can't seem to get on. I feel bad about giving him back, but I don't think I'll ever be able to do anything with him. Even if he gets sent away for training, or I get an instructor I don't want to get on a 3 year old, or a four year old, regardless of training. I just don't feel safe enough anymore. So I am thinking I'll give him back, and at least he has put on weight, is looking great and is very easy to handle (so hopefully he'll get a good home) and save for maybe 6 months and then I can buy a horse with solid basic training, maybe one that has done stock work or something, heaps of trails or PC. Just something more quiet and experienced.

Do you think I am making the right decision? Its really hard for me to say I'm afraid to ride, but I guess I am.
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post #2 of 8 Old 01-11-2011, 08:54 PM
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I think you are. Older horses are the best for building your confidence back up and it sounds like that's what you need instead of a young colt.
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post #3 of 8 Old 01-11-2011, 08:58 PM
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You are making the right decision and your horse is going to be more adoptable with the work you put into him : )

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post #4 of 8 Old 01-11-2011, 09:19 PM
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You have made a really hard admission. It is not easy to say what you just did.

As far as are you making the right decision, I don't know. Would riding a school horse somewhere help you build up your confidence so that you could ride your own guy?
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post #5 of 8 Old 01-11-2011, 09:55 PM Thread Starter
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I've taken many years of lessons. I took a few earlier this year to get back into horses, and I wasn't impressed by the only riding school in the area. I told them I was a little nervous of horses but experienced and wanted a dressage lesson, and they put me on a 17.3hh horse! I got a good walk trot canter etc, and after they were like "oh good, most people can't get him to canter, he just runs", which left me wondering why they put me on him for my first lesson. I didn't really like how the instructors taught, and I got the feeling it was just a sort of "young instructor who has nothing else better to do" kind of thing rather than someone who has something to teach. Which is fine, but not if I've been there, done that, and are paying $55 for 45 minutes.

The people who own the place I keep Samson are really good to me, and they said they're keeping an eye out for a horse I can ride (like a sort of free lease) until I can get my own (they don't seem to like Samson). The horses don't have to be perfect, like a little pigroot here and there, a bit of shying, a bit strong, its all fine if I know they are a good, honest horse. Its more in my head, I know how dangerous young horses can be and I don't want to put myself in that situation. I like Samson but I don't feel as though he is one in a million, or that I have a special bond with him. Keeping him will mean I won't be able to afford regular lessons, or save for another horse. So I sort of have to choose. I can afford to look at after one horse well, and probably a lesson a month but that is about it.

I just wish I was braver. People call me brave and strong in all parts of my life - it's the first time I've really been afraid to do something and it sucks.
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post #6 of 8 Old 01-12-2011, 08:53 AM
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It does sound like this is the right decision. I tough decision but the right one.
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post #7 of 8 Old 01-12-2011, 09:00 AM
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Horses are a long term committment, yes. However, we have horses because we love it. If it's not fun, and draining your energy, then its not the right match. You've given him a great second chance and maybe its time for him and you to move on. Find a horse that makes a good partner for you.

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post #8 of 8 Old 01-12-2011, 09:12 AM
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You are making the right decision. To have a horse that you are not really confident enough to get on and ride makes the pleasure of riding a chore and a scary one at that. A good older horse that has "been there done that" will make riding and caring for the horse fun again and you will look forward to getting up and getting going.
I traded a young green horse, that I really did not want to ride,for a 7 yr old horse that is so fun to ride and do things with.She will be 9 this spring and even after a long winter of no riding, I can go saddle her up and go...
Don't feel guilty or down on yourself, you have done tons of work, the horse is ready for someone to start riding which is more than he was when you got him. Think of it this way, you took a non trained horse, did all the work to make him ready to ride, now you are going to "turn him back" and let someone else move forward with him. That alone should make you proud of what you have done with him.
Now, go find that horse that is your match. He/she is out there just waiting.
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