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post #31 of 34 Old 04-16-2013, 01:43 AM
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Is it really a bonding issue though? To me it is totally different, and I don't have words for it. You can be totally bonded with a horse that you don't ride, but looking for that 'spark' when you ride is different.

For me I love Big Ben, he is a work in progress, and he is exciting because he is so green and everything is an adventure, he also has the biggest movement I have ever ridden, he excites me,I look forward to learning with him, and teaching him. Willow though, I have only walked her and trotted her a little, but just sitting on her puts a HUGE grin on my face, it is just a different feel, and agghh I don't know, but Ben hasn't got it, and Wills has
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post #32 of 34 Old 04-16-2013, 02:01 PM
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Just remember, at the end of the day you need to do what is best for you and what is going to help you enjoy what you love. There is no rush so mull over it a bit and I think I already said all I could say via pm. Hugs your way!

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post #33 of 34 Old 04-16-2013, 02:13 PM
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Before you give up on him as a partner, I'd like to know how you ride and handle him. Does he ALWAYS work the same routines? There is no spark if he's bored.
My old herd leader, "Tyke" despised lessons. He DID them, but once in awhile he'd kick at me, when he was too far away to be anything but a statement.
Then, one day, we started our hobby (1986-2011), CW Reenacting. He thought that he was a recently discovered "horse god," and that everybody came to look at him perform. He also loved it when we took trail riding vacations and just played games with him. He was also sexist. I tried riding him at a small event and he flat out refused to play. Got a man on him and that changed, and our commander rode him at all drills and battles after that, plus he was my DH's favorite horse until he died in 1998.
Maybe he just needs some cross training. Still, if you sell him, somebody in the market is gonna get a great horse, bc of you. =D

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post #34 of 34 Old 04-16-2013, 04:26 PM
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Maybe you just need to try something new with your horse, or shake up the routine? When I had my last gelding (for 8 years), we would go through those "boring marriage slumps" where there's no passion. But we didn't get a divorce, we went out and tried new activities - we tried barrel racing, jumping, working with cattle, etc. (my western pleasure horse). And we loved it! Then we went back to our "normal" work with renewed passion.

You also might want to go try out a new horse for a couple days. I was getting a little "ho-hum" with Lily, looking at all the other pretty yearlings out there. We got one another yearling and BOY DO I LOVE MY LILY, haha! Once I realized how hard it is to reconnect and train with a new horse, I'm in so much love with my yearling because of our familiarity and "bond". (not that I would ever sell her, she's mine forever, but sometimes you don't realize what you have until you work with something else)

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