have you ever suddenly been scared to ride ? - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 6 Old 10-03-2013, 02:02 AM Thread Starter
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have you ever suddenly been scared to ride ?

Recently I witnessed a friend get bucked of and break arm bone really badly, and last time I rode my horse was sore and bronced instead of cantering most of the time like massive broncs like a rodeo horse, like my friends horse did.

And for the first time in my life I actually don't want to ride any more, but I know I do, my horse is pretty relaxed and spooks once in a blue moon.

And people at my new agistment say how good I train my horse, and that my horse is a good match with me. And that she was a good horse to buy for me.

Mostly I'll sit through everything, I'm never scared I've dealt with things like this before, I will actually force myself to be even more relaxed and just laugh it of but I'm scared of falling of ,and the whole 4-5 months I have been on my project I have never fallen of.

I wasn't even scared when I rode this green pony, that had not been ridden in a field before and went spastic, but than I wasn't told he would do anything bad.

Its like I never noticed how bad you could injure yourself until now, but I've always heard of those terrible stories when people die ect.

This is also embarrassing to say, and admit. I spend hours in my mind just imagining what might happen next time I ride or how I could fall. But I really don't know is it worth riding if you could die, when I seriously think about its not.

I'm thinking for my birthday I could go on a trail ride, or an agistee said I was capable to ride one of her ottb`s.
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post #2 of 6 Old 10-03-2013, 02:25 AM
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You could die anytime, anywhere, doing anything. Even eating a grape! Or walking up the stairs

You cannot live your life in fear.

Yes, horse riding is a very risky sport. We are not invincible.

However it's normal to be scared or nervous, especially if you witness something happening with your own eyes, or experience it first hand.

You cannot let fear decide what you can and cannot do, or you will lose out on happiness.

Take it easy for awhile. Do things that encourage you around horses, not scare you.

"Strength is the ability to use a muscle without tension"
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post #3 of 6 Old 10-03-2013, 11:10 AM
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Doing any type of dangerous sport involves 'acceptable risk'.

I find riding to be very enjoyable, so to me it's an acceptable risk I'm willing to take in order to indulge my passion. However, I have no acceptable risk factor when considering bungee jumping, so it's not something over which I'd willingly risk my life.

If you can't overcome your fear, then you need to stay off horses. Being afraid will only get you badly hurt or killed, and it's no picnic for the horse to have a quivering mass of terrified predator on their back.

Some people who own horses never ride. If they're happier not riding and just getting their horse fix by being around them, that's completely understandable. There's no reason to ride if it's not enjoyable for you.

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post #4 of 6 Old 10-03-2013, 11:30 AM
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Oh yes. The first summer I had my horse I came off twice, once because he stepped into a hole and tripped at a canter. The second time he bucked cause he got scared when I took off my hoodie, and of course I was already sitting awkward with only one hand on the reins. First time I broke my wrist, second time my finger. After the second time, despite getting right back on, I was scared and making excuses why I couldn't ride. First of course my finger was broken, then I needed to lunge him, then I didn't have the right boots etc reins
What really helped was getting the help of a good trainer. She got on first (he'd not been ridden for about 3 months), then I took dressage lessons with her for a few more months. The horse and I had something to work on, and we gained trust in each other again. Most productive riding time we ever had :).
Now skydiving on the other had was different. I felt I really wanted to do it and went for one jump. After the adrenaline had worn off I felt like "what the hell did I DO?" And never went back... :)
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post #5 of 6 Old 10-03-2013, 01:32 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, OP, how old are you?

IME, realizing that you could die from a horse accident is part of growing up and losing the teen belief in "invincibility". I was in my teens and suffered a very bad horse accident when it hit me just how dangerous it is. For quite some time after that, I had a hard time getting on any horse and I couldn't force myself to get on one that was green.

Over some time spent with good horses, my confidence came back slowly, but the knowledge of possible injury never went away. Because of that, I'm not afraid to ride green/unbroken horses anymore, but I'm much more cautious and I do a lot more with them on the ground before I ever get in the saddle to minimize the chance of getting thrown. I don't take un-necessary risks.

Just give yourself some time, spend a lot of time around them on the ground. You'll likely regain your confidence as you go along. And, as SR said, even if you don't, many people enjoy a life with horses without ever riding them.
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post #6 of 6 Old 10-03-2013, 07:52 PM Thread Starter
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I'm just turning 17, I did think I was invisible before I think that's been a big factor to why I am scared.

But today I actually don't feel as scared as yesterday thinking about riding because I watched this video on you tube about how you can tell when your horse is sore from holistic horses, and it made allot of sense as I am familiar with nearly all the bone names and allot of the superficial muscle names.

And I think my horse has always been sore/tight and that she needs even more muscle from lunging before I get on next time and I'm going to do yoga stretches with her, and get her a massage per week or even two a week so that these issues can be helped as soon as possible and also put work in there, such as going over poles and traveling in straight lines ect.



And than there is yoga stuff to do: if my horse can't eventually do the stretches than I will liase with my myotherapist to try and fix the issues before I ride.

and yes speed racer I wouldn't get on my horse if I was scared, she's only had me as a rider when I am confidant and happy.
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