Ok, I'm not going to tell you to get a different boyfriend or that his a jerk or that you should just ignore him, etc...... That's not how to have a good relationship. I'm sure if he was looking to spend a lot of money on a Rolls you'd be saying that a Chevy will work just as well
. That's how people who have relationships work, but I'm not going to get into all that. I've dumped two wives, kept the children, the house (and the money
) because they thought they could just do what they wanted and ignore what was in the best interest of the family and relationship.
Besides what everyone else seems to have overlooked is that you've gone over this together. You dictated your terms (you're going to adopt pretty much every animal that's available and doesn't have a home
) and taking into account the demands you've made he's dictated his terms (ok, but you can't buy one). Seems you've reasoned things out. If you don't like his terms then you might want change your terms
Remember, you set your terms and if you're going to be together then it's not unreasonable for him to set his.
As for your boyfriend's demands. There are a few things to consider.
1. Males in general tend to be logical (life is not a Disney movie). You've dictated your terms..."you're going to adopt pretty much every animal that's available and doesn't have a home". That's going to run into money. As I tell people who ask me what a fair price is for a horse....."$20,000, because it's not what you pay for the horse it's what you pay after you get it so if you can afford to dump $20,000 on the horse you can usually afford to keep it". To a man the logical thing is if you're going to get all these rescues anyway and we're going to be shelling out to keep all these animals then "buying" one is crazy.
2. If you don't want to have a guy who's going to potential disagree with you at times or give you counter terms based on the conditions you set then you need to forget being in a serious long term relationship with a man or find one that is (let's say this nicely) hen pecked and will let you do whatever you want and not have (or at least not express) a difference of opinion.
Be VERY glad you weren't dictating your terms to a guy like me
. I'd tell you ok, fine, but you better have enough money to cover the cost and you may as well name any pigs: ham, bacon or pork chop; any goats: tagine; any sheep: curry; any chicken that doesn't lay eggs: cog au vin (my favorite chicken dish) and other menu items for whatever we adopt. If I was going to have to deal with the feed, crap, fencing, housing, maintaining in general (not to mention vet bills) then I'd be expecting a nice return at meal time for my investment
All things consider.....under the terms he's been given I'm not sure I'd want to change your boyfriends mind