Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: New South Wales, Australia
You're right in wanting to purchase a suitable horse for your first horse. Horses aren't dogs or cats, where dealing with issues is usually not dangerous, with horses if they have issues that you can't deal with they can be very dangerous.
Also, I think when horses are rescued by people who don't know what they need to know, it actually can give the horse a worse future. By letting a horse get away with dangerous behaviour, or not correcting things, can mean that the horse get worse. Then when they're too dangerous for their rescuers, they are sold on worse.
To be honest I think you really need to sit down with your boyfriend and discuss things with him. It's not my place to butt in on your relationship, or comment on it, but from my experience it shouldn't be up to you to change someone, or up to you to help them realise something. I've done that in the past, and in the long term it doesn't work out. You can tell them how you feel about things, but then it's up to them to make the changes they feel they need to make.
It's not his place to tell you what you can or cannot buy. As a serious couple you'd discuss large purchases, and purchases that have such large time requirements, but no person in any relationship should ever seriously say "no, you can't". That's when things start to get dodgy, in my opinion. He's the one that should be convincing you of his opinion, not the other way around.