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post #51 of 56 Old 10-12-2013, 08:09 PM Thread Starter
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Guys i wasnt looking for an attack on my relationship... he isnt abusive, there isnt any problem we have that we arnt working on, and I am happy with my relationship, he is just a male and stupid sometimes... I was looking for help getting him a non horsey person to see why buying would be a better option. but i will deal with this on my own as i see i made a mistake asking here.
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post #52 of 56 Old 10-12-2013, 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Winterose View Post
He wants a pet cow... In the house
This rescue animal thing
He doesnt like pet sitters so we will never be able to go on vacation
E insists his german shepards jumping is ok along with her sitting in his lap at the dinner table
Im sure i could think of more
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Dangerous and unrealistic lifestyle. Countless animals end up in rescues BECAUSE people don't know how/won't show pets how to be polite citizens. The reason doesn't matter. They end up hurting people and getting dumped, through no fault of theirs. Sounds like a PETA sympethiser/supporter. Educate yourself about what that ugly organisation really is and you'll have a true sense of who you're dealing with, if he agrees to ALL of it.

When you choose to share your life with someone, you choose to share their life. Finding two individual lives that mesh well together will get you a lot further.

You. Cannot. Change. Anyone.

Life is far too busy, too short and too precarious to waste YOUR time trying to do so!!
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post #53 of 56 Old 10-12-2013, 08:24 PM
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Not wishing to sound brash, but would you please, run in the opposite direction as fast as you can, without looking back for your personal well-being?? Run, Live, and Enjoy Life With Horses :)
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post #54 of 56 Old 10-12-2013, 08:38 PM
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If you title a thread help me convince my bf you ate going to get relationship advice. It's a big red flag thatyou disagree this much about lifestyle choices and you don't even live together.
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post #55 of 56 Old 10-12-2013, 11:27 PM
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Since you're both into rescuing animals, why not visit a few animal rescue facilities and see what they have available or in training. If you find 1 that you think you might want to rescue and it has to go through their training before you can bring it home, why don't the both of you try volunteering at said facility so you can spend some time with it and be sure it's the one for you.

If he's so big on rescuing animals I'm sure he can sacrifice a few hours a week, maybe he'll get to see you work with the horse a few times. A free horse is not always a safe horse, nor is 1 in need of being rescued. Both of you volunteer and interact with the horse before you decide on rescuing. If he has your safety in mind, if said horse is not safe, he will mostly suggest helping find you 1 that he don't think will hurt you, even if it has to be purchased.

My appy was rescued by my riding instructor. She's also a trainer (level 5 apprentice under Dennis Reis). I paid no more for him than what rescue agencies charge for a re-homing fee. I spent a lot of time with him before and after I became the owner (sometimes he thinks he owns me). I went there during the week to groom, ground school, or maybe just put a rope halter and lead rope on him and walk him around the trails. I even took a lot of my riding lessons on him after she got him advanced in his training to where she thought I could handle him.

As for an older horse that has been there done that, around here a lot of them can be purchase for no more than what you would pay for an adoption fee at a rescue. At most rescue agencies, you still have to pay an adoption fee. So look at it like this, when you pay the adoption fee, you still BOUGHT the horse.
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post #56 of 56 Old 10-12-2013, 11:29 PM
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OP...Sorry you didn't get the replies you were hoping for. When you go on a forum and tell us some of the things you did...well, you run the risk of getting opinions.
For many of us this is way not our first rodeo. We have seen a lot of life and gone through good and very difficult situations. And we can see pitfalls a mile deep here. Heed the warnings and take a step back and look at it honestly if you can. But your life is your choice. We all have to live with or get out of some of the situations we put ourselves in.
We wish you the best.

If you ever find yourself in a fair fight, it's because your tactics suck. ~ Marine 1SGT J. Reifinger
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