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post #71 of 131 Old 08-26-2013, 08:40 PM
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DWM, sorry to hear about the loss

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post #72 of 131 Old 08-26-2013, 10:08 PM
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here in California, which i notice you're in California as well, i have grown accustomed to ignorant dog owners with an unhealthy appreciation for Pit bulls. It's kinda' the "norm" around these parts. I had one grab hold of my greyhound by the shoulder blades, give her a good shake, and we ended up in the hospital with 40 staples. All at my financial and emotional expense. The owners of the Pit simply told me to screw off.
Ugh. Makes me crazy. I'm sympathize and empathize with you, my friend.
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post #73 of 131 Old 08-26-2013, 10:22 PM
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Oh my how tragic, I'm so sorry for your loss -hugs-
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post #74 of 131 Old 08-26-2013, 10:49 PM
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That is so sad. We had the same thing happen, except the neighbours were willing to deal with the dog right then and there, and we had it put down at the vet. He was a big Pyrenees and no one knows what got him to go through such a vicious attack. My heart goes out to you.

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post #75 of 131 Old 08-26-2013, 11:02 PM
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I am so very sorry for your loss, Pumpkin looks like he was an absoute sweety.

I am NOT a fan of pit bulls at all, they have the potential to do so much damage.
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post #76 of 131 Old 08-26-2013, 11:19 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family tonight.

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post #77 of 131 Old 08-26-2013, 11:53 PM Thread Starter
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Pittbulls are NOT in themselves the problem.

Any dog can go batcrap crazy and hurt someone. My childhood dog was a Shih tzu who had been abused. He bit through my lip when I hugged him one day (he was sleeping). And there are far worse stories, thats just what happened to me.

It becomes a problem when people don't know what they have, can't see what their doing wrong, and let dogs go undisciplined, unexcercized (physically AND mentally) and out of control. This guy, for example, had a dog that repeatedly escaped. i wonder if he even tried to remedy this? I also wonder if the dog was fixed. And yes, I have seen Pittbull attacks before...my own mother and aunt were mutilated by their own dog...they knew it was coming, and didn't change what they were doing.
In any case...I blame the dog, but I don't blame the dog. He's broken, and his owner failed him. His life would have been different with someone who made some effort.

As far as I can tell, DS is coping. He hasn't brought up Pumpkin since this morning, but it's been a few hours since I last saw him. Hubby and I will brainstorm tonight and figure out toys, books and memorial issues appropriate for his age. I am glad that my son was not exposed to the body...he was playing in the dragmarks earlier and hubby freaked out. There's a lot of trauma going on in my house right now.

I called DD when I was at school...she is staying with her dad right now, and as our family dog died last month, and she isn't too happy to be staying with her dad.... I knew that she would take Pumpkin's death all sorts of hard. I coordinated with her dad this morning, and thankfully he decided to work with me on this one!!! I let her know as gently as I could that Pumpkin had been killed, and she burst into tears and sobbing. I couldn't even understand most of her questions, but she was worried what the other horse, Pumpkin's mom would think? I assured her the best I could that her Pony would not be traumatized, since by the time we get her shipped, she would have no way of knowing.... I tried consoling her, and when I had to go, I told her to go talk to her dad, maybe tell him all the good things about Pumpkin. She also asked me if we could set up a shrine (memorial) to poor Pumpkin, and I said that we definitely would. It seems to be one thing that I'm sure both my kids can relate to and understand, even in abstract.

Anyway thank you everyone for your kind thoughts. I break down a little bit earlier when reading the poem. All I can think of is that IT WAS NOT HIS TIME TO GO!!! I will sleep on it the best that I can, and figure out both my course of action for the children, but also for the POS owner that allowed this to happen. I definitely need a clear mind for that...it's going to take time, but he should be held responsible and made to understand what his actions caused.

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post #78 of 131 Old 08-27-2013, 12:27 AM
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So sorry for your loss. I have had more than my share of dog related incidents albeit not as horrific as yours but nonetheless still scary. I would like to appeal to all of those irresponsible dog owners out there to take better care of their animals so that these tragic events aren't repeated. Thankfully, too there are some really great dog owners where I ride and I admire them greatly. My prayers are with you and your family. I think your approach in delivering the news to your daughter was the right one. My heart aches for you.
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I am so sorry for your loss. And how it came about was so terrible. I am soo so sorry.
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post #80 of 131 Old 08-27-2013, 12:43 AM
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OH my gosh:( I am sooo sorry.. I hope that the dog gets put down. If not... Id make sure either 1) All animals are in a pen where a dog couldnt get in.. or ur sitting outside waiting for him to step a single paw on the property..

IF for some reason he doesn't get put down.. maybe set a trap;).. Id do it..

Two dogs were just wondering.. Not caring about the horses.. or the chickens.. and my dad got his gun ready.. one wrong move towards either of our animals.. and the "subjects' would have been .. done for...:/

Sorry again.:( hope everything gets figured out.. thats gotta be hard to deal with

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