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post #1 of 11 Old 03-28-2020, 10:01 PM Thread Starter
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Horse "borrowers"

I've had recent issues with teenage girls wanting to ride my horse, then getting somewhat possessive of him after they do ride. Once this happens I'm done with them. I have put a lot of time into my horse the past 2 years and spend a lot of time with him. The latest issue blew me away. The girl (a neighbor) was trying to convince my husband and I to let her barrel race him. When she was told no several times, she asked if she could ride him on a regular basis. No again. She got angry the last time she asked to ride him and my husband and I said no. Anyway, this got me thinking, does barrel racing a horse make him want to go fast whenever being ridden? My goal in a horse is being well rounded; happy to walk on the trail and willing to trot and canter only when asked. Just curious, I am done loaning him out!
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post #2 of 11 Old 03-28-2020, 10:24 PM
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Wow. I'm pretty generous with the ranch horses, but I'd never put up with that kind of attitude. Nor would I let someone compete on my horse. The chance of injury to horse, or rider, is too high for my liking.

As to whether barrel racing makes a horse want to run all the time (hot), it depends on the horse and how it is handled. I sure would let a neighbor kids be the one to school my horse to barrels.

I think you're smart to be done with loaning. That's unfortunate for a nicer child.
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post #3 of 11 Old 03-28-2020, 10:51 PM
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To me the teens have worn out there welcome.
You were very sweet to allow them the horsey fix and now they have taken advantage and pushed to far and to hard.
The horse is yours and is your responsibility to keep safe, sound and not let the animal be pushed in riding directions he is not prepared for.
The word "No" if the teens not understand should now also be told to the parents so understanding is completely clear to all.
The teens abused your good nature and sharing so now they no longer have horse privileges of any sort with your animal anymore.
If you board, alert your barn to no more...
If you have the horse at home...lock the gates into the farm.
Lock the tack room and lock up the halter and lead ropes...
Place a few signs regarding trespassers beware....
After you make the phone call and speak to the parents, or go to the homes and speak in person to the parents...let them all know...trespass and you will be facing charges with the law.
You are your horses advocate and your one else shall stand up to protect your rights or your animal but you...
Teens do not intimidate me...very few things actually do!

Those teens ruined the chance to enjoy what was offered by bad for them.
That's my take on it...they blew-it.
Now protect what they desire cause for some no is not graciously understood and becomes a reason to retaliate against...

The worst day is instantly better when shared with my horse.....
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post #4 of 11 Old 03-29-2020, 08:00 AM
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Ive had teens ask me to give them lessons on my horse for money. They were very gracious when I said no and they apologized for even asking so not all teens are bad.

They do have very bad judgment though - Im a clumsy novice rider at best and my horse is an amateurishly trained mutt. I have no idea why they would want lessons from me or on my stubborn little miss know-it-all.
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post #5 of 11 Old 03-29-2020, 09:30 AM
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As a teen I was often asked to compete on other people's horses which was fine by me. I never asked to be paid and owners paid entries often being good enough to let me have any prize money should we come into the ribbons.

I have had a lot of teens I thought their own horses hang out with me. (Not talking about the riding schools but when I was on my own) they worked and had free rides/lessons. Never once did any of them ask if they could compete on a horse. I did let them, even the novices, if I had a suitable animal around.

Never did they take it for granted and were always thankful for the opportunities I put their way.
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post #6 of 11 Old 03-29-2020, 10:09 AM
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I do _not_ let anyone else ride my animals. "Never, ever, don't even ask."
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post #7 of 11 Old 03-29-2020, 10:37 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks...I was just amazed at her boldness with such a request. He's my only horse and I ride and work with him regularly. I do board and have told the owners.
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post #8 of 11 Old 03-29-2020, 11:22 AM
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There are a few people I would be comfortable with on my horse, if I owned right now. I can count them on one hand. And they're all adults. And I've known them for several years each.
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post #9 of 11 Old 03-29-2020, 12:45 PM
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I am very careful about letting others ride my horses, and I have to be there as well so I know what's going on. The people who can ride my horses I have known well and know how they handle and treat horses.
A teen who was so aggressive about my horse and what to do with it would be a big danger sign to me as to how this person would handle and ride the horse. Obviously not one to listen to the owner and follow instructions.
A very big NO
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post #10 of 11 Old 03-29-2020, 12:56 PM
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If they come across as they do in your post then HECK NO. Some can be seriously obnoxious sheeesh. There are some very mature teenagers- one I would GLADLY take instruction from but its not the age its the attitude right? Protect your horse. If they are trying to push your boundary like this they in my experience then will push animals further.
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