Henny and I are EXACTLY alike. To say it was fate for us to be together is an understatement. He is a laid-back little guy that definitely likes to kick up his heels sometimes. He'll walk up to anyone and listen to anyone, but he is only truly comfortable with me. If I tie him or hand him to someone else while we're away from home, he always tries to follow me as I'm his comfort zone. When it comes to other horses, he is low man on the pecking order. He is obedient to everyone and will chomp his face off the second they show any dominance to him. Once he's established himself, he follows the other horse around like a giant puppy dog, seeking guidance from them. He needs constant reassurance as he is a timid boy. But a pat on the neck or some good words and he will follow me through anything. He needs confidence instilled in him to feel safe enough to continue. He is always looking for a leader to show him the way. At the same time, he is a bit on the stubborn side, though that could just be his age. A fit of "I don't wanna!"'s results in a swift tap on the butt and he is obedient after being put in his place. His brain damage has altered his personality, though. He requires MORE guidance than he did before, though I am glad to provide that. He is a lot more spooky now and more hesitant to encounter new things. He has a different thought process than he did before. He's more forgetful, but is quick to learn and remember. He is just such a sweetheart, though, and I wouldn't change anything about him.
As for me, I am also a shy and timid person. I am always looking for a leader, but I and too stubborn and independent to ask for help half the time. I need confidence instilled in me, and even then I doubt myself. But if they believe in me, I should believe in myself. I am a bit of a door mat, but there comes a breaking point where it turns from helping to being taken advantage of that I don't tolerate. I am more laid back and quieter when you first meet me, but you can't get me to shut up once I'm comfortable around you. I am definitely stubborn but that is easily pushed to the side once someone talks some logic into me.
Henny and I are basically a mirror of each other. "Your horse is a mirror of your soul. Sometimes, you may not like what you see." Any time Henny acts up, I have to take a step back and think of how much we're alike. This is not me anthropomorphizing my horse, we just have similar thought processes. We both seek the same guidance and confidence in a leader. The only difference though is that when we're together, I am able to provide him with that guidance and confidence. And I think that shows just how much I love the little guy. I am willing to come out of my shell and instill in him the same guidance and confidence that I so desperately look for for myself.
There on the tips of fair fresh flowers feedeth he; How joyous his neigh,
there in the midst of sacred pollen hidden, all hidden he; how joyous his neigh