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post #1 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 12:29 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy The Horse I want to buy :( HELP

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I have the money for the first two payments saved up for this horse. I've been talking to the seller on pretty much almost every other day. The only problem is the horse is an hour away and the only way I can go out and test ride him is next weekend when my dad doesn't have to work. The lady said that this Saturday a women is coming with a down deposit. But.... then she asked if I can come during the week. So I don't know if she'll "save" him for me. My dad says that we should just transfer a money order to her tomorrow. We've seen pictures and videos of him so my dad is sold on that.

But then again my dad thinks the seller might be just saying that these people are coming out so we will come out faster. For instance, when I first told her I couldn't come out during the week she said that some people looked at him the night before and they liked him. Then when I said I could possibly come out this weekend she said the people changed their mind because of financial problems. Then when I had to tell her we couldn't go out this weekend because of work she said the people were still interested in him and then I hear about this women coming on Saturday.

It makes me question why would she ask if I can come out during next week if this horse is pretty much "sold" to the women coming out Saturday?

What should I do? Send the money order before the other women comes? Or do you think the seller is just saying this so I'll come out sooner?
I really have my heart set on this horse and I'm afraid that he's going to slip out of my grasp.

Please, give me your advice
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post #2 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 12:31 AM
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Honestly - I wouldn't send money to anyone I didn't know regardless of how perfect the horse might be.
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post #3 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 12:31 AM Thread Starter
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Oh yes I know not to give the seller the money without checking the horse. I would just find a way to give the money order a date so the seller can't cash it until I see the horse. That way she'll know the money is in the bank.

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post #4 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 12:59 AM
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Honestly- and I'm telling you this based on experience myself- I would not put a down payment on any horse based on videos and pictures. I had the same experience myself over the summer with a seller. I had just sold my gelding that I had been having confidence issues with for a year and was in the market for a well trained, beginner safe horse. The seller sent me all kinds of videos and pictures. I was in love. He looked like the perfect horse and I recieved the same lines as you did. "There's an individual very interested in him. They're coming to look at him tomorrow. There's an individual that came out here and test rode he and his mother and bought her and really wants to buy him too. Didnt have the money at the time. He says if you dont take him, he's going to " The list went on. So I bit and went out and test rode this horse. From what she said, even though he was only 4 he was well broke, well trained, gentle and would be just perfect for me.. well.. I went out and rode him.. and yes, he was very well trained, handled very well, had a good whoa, good back on him, reined great BUT he was very hot under saddle. He was spirited and not at all what I needed. Needless to say he had alot of go and his gait was extremely rough. NOT at all what she had described. She also wouldnt let me ride him out of the barn.. which raised a few red flags in my head too. Even though he was absolutely gorgeous and well bred. He was spirited. Not the childs horse that she had made him out to be. A horse being ridden in a video by an experienced rider is one thing. They tend to act totally different with a complete stranger on them and they they tend to act totally different if that video is by chance taken in a round pen or arena. If I were you.. I would hold off on giving this woman any money because chances are this horse is not what he is being made out to be if she's that desperate to get rid of him, something is up. I would tell her that you are going to wait and come out and see him first. If he's there.. he's there.. if not then fine. I'm sure you'll find the perfect horse for you.
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post #5 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 01:29 AM
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If you miss out on this one, then this horse was not meant for you, no matter how much you "want" him. If you miss out on this one, it just means that you are bound to find something better.
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post #6 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 04:18 AM
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Buying a horse isn't something you should rush into. For some people, it takes years to find that right horse. View him first, ride him and look for any warning signs that she might of used calming paste. When you view him, request you be there when she brings him in from the paddock. Spend time grooming him, tacking up etc.
Its taken me just over a year to find my horse, so don't rush. The right horse will pop up and you'll know it.
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post #7 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 06:02 AM
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Sometimes it seems like the perfect horse is right there and if you don't grab it you will lose it - this is never the case. Mainly because a) the perfect horse is does not exist and b) there are plenty more fish (or horses) in the sea.

From what I gather the horse owner is considering payment plan for her horse and he has been on sale for at least two weeks, possibly longer.

This tells me:

1. the owner really wants to move the horse - all horse sellers want money upfront, a payment plan is when they want to move them on asap because its costing them more to keep them everyday, some owners just want a horse to go to the best home, but this person has never met you, so I think she wants to move that horse quick.
2. Either the horse has been on the market a while so the owner feels she has to lie about people to sell him OR people have liked him from the videos and pics but they have come to see him and have not bought him for some reason.

I don't understand what your money order is for. I mean you can put a deposit on a horse which basically says you are going to buy it and often these things are subject to vet check. Like if the horses passes a vet check you will definately buy it, and if the horse passes and you don't purchase it then the other party keeps the deposit. It seems what you are doing is offering a deposit with the condition being if you like the horse. Makes no sense, and you could lose your money, and I don't know why an owner would go for it.

Videos and pics can make a horse seem real great, I would never buy a horse sight unseen. So many horses are incredibly different from their pictures and even videos when you see them in person. Wait for the weekend, if you like him get a vet check and if you really like him put a deposit down with the condition of purchase being that the horse is pronounced sound by the vet for your purpose, and put it in writing. Don't just buy him. If you miss out then tough, but you'll find something else.
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post #8 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 11:59 AM Thread Starter
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Thanks everyone. I agree with what you all are saying. I'm just going to wait it out and if its meant to be its meant to be if not maybe the right horse is coming in the future. The only reason I'm really so pushing on this new horse thing is my horse had to be put to sleep due to colic July 19th. I feel so empty that I just want a new horse to help fill the void thats left. I need a "new best friend". I had my horse since she was a foal and I raised/broke/trained her all by myself when I was 12. She was only 7 when she died. I finally had her trained to the point where I could ride her bareback without a bridle. She was my "perfect horse". I waited for 6 years for her to come into my life my dad told me when I was 7 years old that someday the right horse would come along and she did. I wouldn't even be trying to find another one if she was still here. She was my everything. I knew when I first when to see her that she was "the one" she stopped eating left all the others and came over to me and put her muzzle in my arm. She was really a miracle little horse. When she was born she couldn't walk on her hooves and walked on her fetlocks after weeks of vitamins and supplements she started to walk. She was the smoothest horse I ever rode and the most gentle creature I have ever met. She was my best friend and never fought with me from day one. We had the bond that I've always searched of. If she felt me slipping a little she would stop. She would play and chase me in the pasture. Give me hugs and beg for kisses. She loved to lay her head on my shoulder and the back of her neck and she would just sigh and breathe me in. She also loved me to hold her head while she would rest and would bear all her weight in it. Shes the only horse that I have ever trusted with my life. A lot of days I would just pull out a chair and sit with her outside or in her stall when it was winter. She would always lay her head in my lap and nudge cats out because she was jealous. She would never let another horse by me. I never felt any fear but just love and passion with her. Saying goodbye was the hardest thing I've ever done. My dad had to pry me from her because the vet was coming and he didn't want me to see her gone. I can't get the last image out of my head when I was leaving my eyes were kept on her until I was outside the barn. I'm still so heart broke about her it aches just to think about it, but I just have to keep reminding myself that I was lucky enough to experience what we had and that someday she'll be waiting for me at the gates of heaven waiting for her to carry me.I miss her so much :(. Since she passed I feel so lonely and depressed a new horse will help take my mind of her a little and it would be nice to have another horse to love and start a bond with again. I know it won't ever be anything like her or the bond she shared, but hopefully it will be a good one.
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post #9 of 9 Old 10-16-2009, 12:17 PM Thread Starter
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Ohhh I forgot to add! The reason she wants to get rid of him is because she is making payments on a new thoroughbred because shes getting into eventing and she doesn't have enough money to pay for both. That is why she is considering payments because she is on a payment plan herself.
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