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post #1 of 5 Old 08-23-2013, 06:37 PM Thread Starter
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Horse Riding Blues :/

( Just to fill you in a bit ) My first horse was a 13 hh pony we got from an auction. A pinto pony with an attitude the size of a draft horse the the heart kinder than anything. I had Baylee for 10 incredible years, starting from second grade up until a few months before this summer. She taught me how to ride, took me to my first shows, and was my best friend through everything. A few months before this summer, it came time to let baylee go to the pasture in the sky. She had had arthritis since I had owned her but she was having pain in her left knee and was having trouble getting around like she used to. I didn't want her to hurt more than she was so my mom and I made the appointment for the vet. We took her to MSU, I stayed home from school to be with her for the day and went in with her when my mom took her to the Clinic up until the vet came to take her. I haven't felt bad after saying my goodbys- knowing it was the right thing and she was feeling better and was probably running and bucking like her old self

But lately, i've been a little blue and missing her like crazy. I have one horse now. A 6 year old mare named Andie. A few weeks ago, I pulled out my old English saddle and decided to see if it fit Andie ( Just for fun). The girth i have is meant for a pony so it didnt' fit Andie ( A quarter horse). Pulling the saddle off Andie, it just.. hit me. Me and Baylee used to ride English together.. I don't know why but it's been bothering me. I love riding, and usually i'm out all the time but lately I've been almost un interested. And i know it's not fair to Andie but going out there now to see her has been hurting so I've only been going out to feed her and check on her every few hours. I know it would be good for Andie to get out, but now all I can think about is getting my English saddle out and remembering some of the memories that were made while posting along in the pasture.

Any tips on how to get past these riding blues??
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post #2 of 5 Old 08-24-2013, 08:13 AM
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Sorry for the loss of your first pony, and your friend. Anyone who has horses for a long time is going to lose one, and unfortunately all I can say is it part of the circle of life which I know does not bring you much comfort. Your not alone in missing your mare like crazy, it is normal. You had 10 great years with Baylee and she taught you a lot. Remembering the good times you had with Baylee is not a bad thing, but don't dwell. Get your boots on and go form new memories with Andie, horses are the best therapy.

I have lost two horses in two years and it has been really hard. The best thing I can do is go saddle up and go for a ride in the woods and I always feel better when I get back. Best wishes for you and Andie.
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post #3 of 5 Old 08-24-2013, 06:47 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the advice, I'm really trying to get back out there and be with Andie more and hopefully find time to get back in the saddle. in think you are right, I could used a nice ride :)

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post #4 of 5 Old 08-24-2013, 10:27 PM
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I have never lost a horse, but I have had a horse sold. When I was 15 I leased my first horse from my bff's parents. He was a 15.1 hh sorrel QH gelding. His name was RJ. I worked off my lease at their farm for 3 years. I loved that horse more than anything in the whole world. I found out at school that he was being sold, well traded, that day at 3:30. I got off the bus at 3:20 and ran as fast as I could to the pasture. He nickered a soft greeting to me, and I jumped the fence and threw my arms around his neck. I cried hysterically into him, and he dipped his head down and pulled me closer. I watched in tears as they loaded him onto the trailer and drove him away from me forever.
It was so sad. They traded him for 14.2 QH gelding named Bucky. The only reason for it was simply because Bucky was a flashy black and white pinto, and RJ was plain. I never got over it. I was looking at old pics the other day and it made me so sad. I even kept calling my 16 yo 16hh Appaloosa gelding Gaylen, RJ, all day.
I can't imagine having a horse for 10 years and losing it the way you did. *Hugs*
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post #5 of 5 Old 08-24-2013, 11:47 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Losing a horse, even when it is the right time, can be incredibly painful.

I lost a very special horse due to some very tragic circumstances. What we went through was very painful. After I had to put him down I was very very depressed. I was unable to even look at my other horse (his brother) because of how sad I was for myself and him losing his brother. When I was around him I would cry. I knew this was not a good situation for me or the horse so I was able to find him a great home where he was loved and really has a great life.

I didn't ride much for three years after that. Then I slowly was able to stand being around horses again.

Not a day goes by when I don't think about him but now I think about the "good times." All that I can say is that it takes time and it does get better.

I think it is really important to take the time to grieve. Being upset and sad is ok after we suffer a loss.

I hope this helps. I assure you it gets better! Hang in there
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