Join Date: Dec 2010
Location: southern Arizona
For a relationship to work, both sides have to be willing to give. If a woman waits for a man who will only consider 'her needs', she'll never find a man worth having.
Love requires two. Women who expect a man to always give in don't want a man at all. The key isn't who gives, but HOW an agreement is reached on the compromise. Those who use threats or emotional coercion - "If you love me..." - aren't mature enough to build a lifelong relationship. OTOH, a discussion might include "If we want to reach common goal Z, then X & Y have to be done..."
When kids get involved, LOTS of compromises come up. Once there are kids, it stops any 'what I want' because it all turns into 'what our kids need'. I've been married for 24 years, with one wife, 3 kids and 3 grandkids (and 2 dogs and 2 horses). I'm WAY out of the dating stage (Thank God!)...but if I were dating, and a gal told me her horses come first, I'd tell her to enjoy her marriage to her horse and leave without regret. A gal who acted like that wouldn't be mature enough to build anything permanent with either.
It cuts both ways. Ultimatums and emotional blackmail are unacceptable to mature adults. Those who use them are kids, regardless of their age or sex.