Priorities, priorities... yup, that's about it. Between the house, the kids, the job, MDH's business, by the time I get around to "me" time, I'm pretty wiped especially this time of year as it is my busiest time at work. I haven't been riding in weeks, but I did take a long walk in the bush with our son and our dog today.
I have learned to accept that when too much is going on, it's ok for me not to ride, and the horses won't get all freaked out over it and the time will come again when I can do more than just nothing when the work is all done. In the interim, as much as I hate to haul my lazy butt out of the chair to do the barn chores, when I am out there, nothing else is in my head and I am a better person for that. Without it, I'm sure I'd be a basket case.
Many people are far more ambitious than I am though, and it helps if you are well setup with your horses, vehicles, house... the less time you have to spend fiddling because this or that is broken, the more time you have for enjoyment - whether family time or solitary time. For me, there really isn't any social time because that's not my thing.
If we didn't fix our own vehicles, do our own renos, do our own bookkeeping, and live an hour from town, I'd have more time for horses. But I probably wouldn't be able to afford them either -- more balancing, more priorities...
I wonder how families find time to do jobs, school, after school, travel, go to the cottage, socialize... somehow we all find the time to do what is important to us. You will too.