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post #1 of 3 Old 01-03-2015, 03:20 AM Thread Starter
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How to become more assertive?

Its in the title really, I'm not really assertive and its effecting my riding. I need that mentality like I'm going to kick butt XD. Any suggestions?

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I think of being assertive as standing up/doing what you believe is right even when you know it means a struggle is forthcoming. Confidence is knowing you have the skill to do it, usually because of experience.

If you want assertiveness you need to build confidence and that means building skills and experience.
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Originally Posted by Reiningcatsanddogs View Post

If you want assertiveness you need to build confidence and that means building skills and experience.
Yes, just like that.
A level of assertiveness is fairly critical to successfully working with equines; some considerably more than others. George has taught me much about patience, negotiation, assertiveness, and finding a balance between them.
I can't really recommend running out and getting a mule, tho :-)
I'm sure you can find someone who will attempt to teach you, but I'm not certain it would be any better than reading about it in a self-help book. In the end, it's still up to you to develop the correct mind-set, and that will take some time and directed effort on your part.
I guess that is where I would start, tho; with a self-help book, and a horse to provide challenges and feedback.
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