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post #1 of 27 Old 09-06-2010, 02:10 PM Thread Starter
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How can I convince my mom?

I was talking about horse riding lessons with my mom yesterday, and she told me that she doesn't feel comfortable with me on a horse. I asked her why and she told me that it's too dangerous and that horses are unpredictable and have minds of their own. I told her that a riding instructor would be there at all times and that I would have a helmet on, but she told me that she will think about it.

This totally sucks! And I wanted to do jumping too! I don't know how she would feel about that..... When I told her that I want to ride english, she got nervous. She told me that western is a lot safer.

I'm going to be paying for them and everything, so I don't see any problems. She lets me drive on my own!, which I think is a lot more dangerous than horse back riding. She's afraid of horses, which might be the problem...but she also has to understand that I'm going crazy!

And then she told me that it is just a horse phase. That almost every teenager girl goes through them. I kept telling her that I'm not going to go and buy a horse, I just want to take 1 lesson a week, and then I'll decide if I want to keep going with it. Then I will add on more lessons and hopefully lease a horse.

Can anyone help me convince her that horses aren't as dangerous as she thinks they are?
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I was talking about horse riding lessons with my mom yesterday, and she told me that she doesn't feel comfortable with me on a horse. I asked her why and she told me that it's too dangerous and that horses are unpredictable and have minds of their own. I told her that a riding instructor would be there at all times and that I would have a helmet on, but she told me that she will think about it.

This totally sucks! And I wanted to do jumping too! I don't know how she would feel about that..... When I told her that I want to ride english, she got nervous. She told me that western is a lot safer.

I'm going to be paying for them and everything, so I don't see any problems. She lets me drive on my own!, which I think is a lot more dangerous than horse back riding. She's afraid of horses, which might be the problem...but she also has to understand that I'm going crazy!

And then she told me that it is just a horse phase. That almost every teenager girl goes through them. I kept telling her that I'm not going to go and buy a horse, I just want to take 1 lesson a week, and then I'll decide if I want to keep going with it. Then I will add on more lessons and hopefully lease a horse.

Can anyone help me convince her that horses aren't as dangerous as she thinks they are?

1. Okay tell her this. Horse riding isn't the worlds dangerous sport its one but its not dangerous like some others I know of.
2.I have been riding all my life and have yet to get out of horses I own 5 horses.
3. Tell your mom that you want to ride and you promise to quit if she doesnt like it.
4.How old r u?
5. I think she will understand more as you get into it.
English is soo much better but try western riding first and then move onto english riding and jumping.
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post #3 of 27 Old 09-06-2010, 02:45 PM Thread Starter
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I'm 16, and I heard that its hard to go from western to english riding. I'm going to call her in a minute and talk to her about it some more. I know that it takes time to even be able to jump, and I tell her that I will be a lot more experienced. I also told her that she probably is allowed to watch me take the lessons. I'm hoping that she will say yes. :)
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Tell her I've fallen off somewhere around 20 times and never been hurt
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post #5 of 27 Old 09-06-2010, 03:19 PM
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If need be you might have to wait until you are 18. Take her to watch some other riders taking beginning lessons. They should be on a calm horse.
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post #6 of 27 Old 09-06-2010, 03:31 PM Thread Starter
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I can't wait any longer! I can't get ahold of her on her cellphone, so I'll have to wait till tomorow to talk to her about it. I know she will say yes eventually...because she will soon realize that I will remind her about it every second.
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i did that i kept asking and asking and then my mom gave in and she likes horses now we even got one and she rides him sometimes, but i have to be right beside her lol
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post #8 of 27 Old 09-06-2010, 04:33 PM
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Yeah thats what I did too ^^ lol I bugged the crap out of her <3

And you will be riding lesson ponys and say ponys not horses.. they seem less dangerous lol

Horses are scared of two things... Things that move and things that don't.
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post #9 of 27 Old 09-06-2010, 04:35 PM
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Whatever you do, act like an adult and have and adult conversation with your mom.No whining or pouting.
I can understand your mom being worried, I still worry about my 33 yr old daughter, its just the nature of the beast, we are moms afterall.
Have her go to a horse show with you. Have your watch lessons being given by the barn/trainer you want to go to. Let her observe in her own time that horses can be very fun to be around and most are not dangerous. Encourage her to talk to you about her feelings and then you can talk to her about yours.
Explain to her that driving is more dangerous, after all, a drunk driver can hit you, even though you are being careful. Riding a bike is dangerous, taking a walk is dangerous with predators around. At least riding a horse is done in a safe closed corral , with a helmet on and with an instructor helping/training. Do you have brothers who are in sports? Boys have been paralyazed in football, but they still play.
Be honest and have a really good one on one chat with her about this, talk over your feelings and hers and see if you can come to an agreement to at least try it for a bit and see how it goes. Tell her you want her to come watch you ride, include her.
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post #10 of 27 Old 09-06-2010, 08:28 PM
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My parents always told me that it was just a phase too. Finally when I was 11 I found an ad for a riding stable near our house, I called the barn owner and set up an appointment to go meet her and potentially set up riding lessons.

I didn't leave them a choice.
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