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post #1 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 01:18 PM Thread Starter
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How can I tell the lady at the barn I don't want to hear her stories?

There is a new lady at the barn. She owns a two year old Fresian/Andalusian who she named Shadow and her daughter owns a yearling Hanoverian, Indy. They are both really nice ladies, but the mom won't be quiet about her horses and what she is doing. I feel like she is cutting in on my time with my horse with her chatterboxing.... She stood there the entire time I was brushing him yesterday, talking about how she was going to worm her horse and blah blah blah.

Does anyone have an idea on how to politely let her know I just want to work with my horse? I don't want to be mean nor do I not want to ever talk to her.

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post #2 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 01:37 PM
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It does sound like your being mean. Why don't you want to talk to her? I hate it when I go somewhere and people with horses act like that. Like your better than that person. You never know if you'll ever need help from them and if you're going to be like that then they wouldn't feel the need to help you. Its your choice but if that's how you feel then tell them straight out you don't feel like talking and that's that.
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post #3 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 01:39 PM
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Atleast she is being friendly. Friendly and over talkative is better than a total biotch. I would just talk to her :) company is always nice.
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post #4 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 01:40 PM
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It does sound like your being mean. Why don't you want to talk to her? I hate it when I go somewhere and people with horses act like that. Like your better than that person. You never know if you'll ever need help from them and if you're going to be like that then they wouldn't feel the need to help you. Its your choice but if that's how you feel then tell them straight out you don't feel like talking and that's that.
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There is a diffrence between an occasional conversation and not leaving some one alone.

How would you like it if some one followed you around blabing in your ear the whole time your trying to work with your horse?????
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post #5 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 01:41 PM
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I know exactly what you mean, don't worry. Like if you've had a bad day and all you want to do is whisper/chat with your horse and get quality time in, just you and your equine pal. Unfortunately I hav'nt figured out what to do either so I just kind of smile and nod as I work, but she still sticks around. So I will definitely be watching this thread hehe.
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post #6 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 01:42 PM
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Unfortunately, I know several people like that. I really don't consider it rude that you want to spend quiet time with your horse. I would just be honest and respectful about it. Let her know that you like to spend quiet time with your horse alone for whatever reason; stress relief, etc.
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post #7 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 01:59 PM
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There is a diffrence between an occasional conversation and not leaving some one alone.

How would you like it if some one followed you around blabing in your ear the whole time your trying to work with your horse?????
I can understand if it happened all the time. But Citrus never said if it happened all the time or if this was just yesterday. So that being said is the reason for my statement. As I said, its her choice to tell them straight out that she does not want to talk to them. No pussie footen around! Its clearly evident she wants nothing to do with theses ladies.
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post #8 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 02:14 PM
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She said in the op that she didn't want to never talk to these ladies, she just wanted alone time with her horse
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post #9 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 02:37 PM
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I don't think there is a polite way to say something about it. Some people are like that - they have to share because they are "over-filled". I'm sure I'm pretty annoying to my farrier too as I often share with him the training progress etc. (although I just see him once/8 weeks ). And I should say about same stands for many horse persons I know - they don't stop talking about their horses (whether they are old or young).



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post #10 of 38 Old 11-28-2010, 02:46 PM
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My husband and I have a dear friend that will just talk our ears off. We would never want to hurt his feelings, so when we need the quiet time we just make adjustments. Such as being somewhere else when he feels especially chatty. Maybe you could time your visits to the barn a little differently or choose to walk your baby when she is just "hanging around". I know it seems like a bit of work on your part, but if you don't want to hurt her feelings, avoidance seems the most logical route.
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