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post #1 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 03:58 PM Thread Starter
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Exclamation How to convince parents?

Well hears the thing... I have a horse of my own already. I realized a few months ago she can't really be a show horse because every time she gets to a new place she bucks like crazy! I still really want to keep her and we are going to get a new horse for me. I can handle two horses and we have room. But my dad still isn't convinced(but my mom wants to keep her) I got attached to her and don't want to let her go. I have considered lease but he said no. How can i convinced him i have time to ride and take care of two horses? I don't want to let her go... :''(
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post #2 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 04:09 PM
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If the only problem is her not acting well at new places then why not send her to a trainer to work through the issue? You should be able to find one who would be willing to trailer her to several different arenas in the area to get her used to it. Trainers aren't cheap, but in the long run (and probably the short run) it would be cheaper than getting a 2nd horse.
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post #3 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 05:31 PM
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englishjumper16, what grating on me is the tone of your post. it almost says 'oh, this pony is kinda broken, so instead of fixing it i'm going to get another one'.

i mean no disrespect at all by my statement, but it is so prevalent in today's society to just 'get another one' instead of fixing what is wrong with what one already has.

another thought is that you get tense in new places, and that transfers to your horse, causing the bucking. relax :)

do you have a trailer and can you take her to various places yourself? by that i mean your parents would drive, unless you have your license and are experienced with towing trailers.

take her to various arenas in your area, ask your other local stables if you can come during times of low/no activity at first, and build up to where you are bringing her places when it is quite a bit busier. don't even bother riding the first few times you go places, just walk her around, maybe lunge her a bit if allowed. this will help build up her tolerance for the hustle and bustle of your typical horse showground, if that is where her bucking issue is stemming from. hey! see about taking lessons from a qualified instructor at a respectful stable, trailer your horse in once a week, etc. this allows a second set of eyes (the instructor's) to see anything that may be triggering your horse that you may not be seeing. might be good to start with private lessons, working up to semi-private (just one or two more riders in the arena with you), to group. group lessons are kind of the equivalent of a flat show class, where multiple horses are in the arena at once. i think this would help your horse a lot if it is an issue she has with the level of activity at a show.

other ideas are to play loud music at the barn at home (or wherever you board), hang up lots of fluttery stuff (flags, etc). make your horse's home seem like a crazy busy showground on occasion. then it won't be so much of a surprise to her when she does go to a show. it's all about desensitizing! :)
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post #4 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 05:34 PM
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I agree -- why not work with the horse you have? You already have a relationship and history. Build on what you've got.
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post #5 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 06:30 PM
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Take her out everywhere, even if your not riding her. Let a new atmosphere become routine. It could be as simple as taking her to another barn or bringing her a long to a friend's shows. Let her hang, eat grass and get comfortable. Once she starts relaxing hop on and sit/walk around on her. Then move to trotting. Just keep everything relaxed and positive.

If that doesn't work, hire a trainer to sort her out!
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post #6 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 06:56 PM
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Yup I agree with everyone else take her out everywhere it is way better then pushing for another horse. She can be a show horse you just need to put in the time and effort to get her used to everything that's going on. New laces especially shows for a horse not used to it can be extremely overwhelming you just new to continue going. How do you think all those 2&3 yr olds get to act so calm in their halter and futurist stuff? Because they are taken everywhere.(I dot condone that age for heaven work but it is a good example.)

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post #7 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 09:43 PM Thread Starter
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I get where you guys are coming from and trust me if I could consider a trainer I would but I think I live in the smallest town possible... I have to travel 2 1/2 hours to get good training! There is absolutely no arena where I could take her. And I'm not saying that just cause my pony is apparently "broken" that I didn't try my best but she is at her best at home and as far as I know my parents aren't to keen on taking 3 hours trips to a different arena. I have considered a trainer but there is NOTHING where I come from! And my coach is just a coach she's not there to fix my horse! I am showing gold and my parents are very competitive. There favorite phrase is "either you win or we sell your horse"! So try and have a little sympathy for me! My horse is going to be sold imagine how I feel!!!! I have spend years building relationships with the horse I have owned but every time we finally get and trust one another they get sold! One day I woke up and one of my previous horses was gone!! God people get a heart!
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post #8 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 09:47 PM
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Unless you have $100k to spend on a horse, that will be competitive, they are all going to have problems. Being a horse person means that you can work through those issues.

I disagree, a coach is there to train both the horse and you.
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post #9 of 11 Old 06-07-2013, 09:53 PM
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To me, if you planned on putting a 3 hour drive into showing its worth investing a three hour drive into training. Or driving 2 1/2 hours to drop her off at a trainer for a month and let them sort her out. There are NO other barns or equestrian centers you could take her to school at?! I find it very hard to believe.

Your hands are tied when you don't pay your horses bills. If I were your parents I wouldn't want to keep a horse around who isn't useful.

Ps... I don't think suggesting good training is heartless. The truth isn't always the easiest thing to hear.
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post #10 of 11 Old 06-08-2013, 11:19 AM
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your coach is for you and your horse, or at least should be.
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