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post #91 of 113 Old 06-27-2019, 12:16 PM
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My mare does very much enjoy a vigorous forehead rub, right along her star. When I first got her, she was incredibly aloof and internalized all her anxiety- a rub on the forehead was the only thing that seemed to get through to her. She'd visibly relax when being praised and "rewarded" that way. After some time together, I've found her itchy spots and other ways to praise her, and she's much more willing to connect. But for her, that forehead contact really worked.
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post #92 of 113 Old 06-27-2019, 01:04 PM
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I love Warwick Schiller! I actually have his entire video library downloaded to my desktop for referencing, and I've shared said library with my MIL. She thinks he's mean, but does admit that all of his horses are very well behaved.
LORDY! If she thinks Warwick is mean, she had better not ever EVER watch any Clinton Anderson.

Warwick has changed his approach so much in the last year or two that she might like his new stuff. I laughed a bit at the beginning of the one older video here where he talked about how he doesn't just hang out with horses and feed them carrots to bond with them. Because that's kind of what he DOES do now. Or at least a big part of it.
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post #93 of 113 Old 06-27-2019, 02:44 PM
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She thinks Warwick is mean?? Wow....she'd better steer clear of most of the rest!


I'm glad it sounds like she has a horse that may not kill her immediately, and I hope she gets some lessons for her sake and the mare
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post #94 of 113 Old 07-03-2019, 06:05 AM
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So.....how are things going with MIL and her horse???? We need updates!

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post #95 of 113 Old 07-05-2019, 09:33 PM Thread Starter
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She brought her mare home. She's actually found a very nice farm to board at. Best of all, she's not boarding where I am! Still haven't been able to talk her into buying a helmet... But she did ask me to stop by and show her how to lunge a horse, so I linked her a video on how to lunge. Since she's not at my barn, I can claim to be too busy to stop over and train her horse myself.

She's been watching training videos, (on YouTube... But it's something! There are great resources there) and seems to really resonate with Pat Parelli and bitless and barefoot ideologies.
Personally I haven't seen all that many horses respond well to parelli training that weren't trained by parelli himself... But at least she's willing to learn, even if she's not willing to listen to me!

The important thing is that the horse hasn't killed her yet!

I did take a peek at the tack that came with the horse when she bought it and... Oh boy... I've given her a number to a saddle fitter. It's got to be some of the most atrociously fitting tack I've ever seen. I asked my horses old owner about selling my horses old custom tucker to my MIL, since her horse has a very similar build to mine.

Problem is, being a custom tucker, she wants a good bit of money for it. As she should. But I also know full well my MIL doesn't want to cough up the cash for a well fitting saddle when she has, in her opinion, and perfectly good one already. The old owners used it, so it must be good, right?

The old owners also knew nothing about horses, got a cheap abetta off ebay and called it a day. The horse was never sore, but they only rode once every 3 months.

I have a sneaking suspicion that if she's going to hit the ground, it's going to be directly because of saddle fit.
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post #96 of 113 Old 07-05-2019, 10:24 PM
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Have you been able to talk MIL into taking lessons? I'm going to guess "no".
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post #97 of 113 Old 07-05-2019, 10:34 PM
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This is a good thing now, she might learn more and stick with it. Ask her if she likes hurting her horse because the saddle is doing that. Show her where it causes problems, how painful this is for the horse, perhaps borrow a good fitting saddle just for purpose of demonstrating a comfortable fit.

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post #98 of 113 Old 07-06-2019, 11:04 AM
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@Ratlady I saw this "hat" in a magazine I get:

https://www.sheplers.com/resistol-ri...gK_3_D_BwE:G:s

It's not cheap, not at all, but it doesn't look like a typical riding helmet. Do you think she might go for it?
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post #99 of 113 Old 07-06-2019, 03:48 PM
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@Ratlady I saw this "hat" in a magazine I get:

https://www.sheplers.com/resistol-ri...gK_3_D_BwE:G:s

It's not cheap, not at all, but it doesn't look like a typical riding helmet. Do you think she might go for it?
I think that helmet looks funny and would be bulky to wear. I will stick with an English helmet any day of the week, lol!

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post #100 of 113 Old 07-06-2019, 04:20 PM
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I like the Da Brim visors for transforming the "look" of helmets, too.
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