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post #11 of 54 Old 09-21-2010, 04:07 AM
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Are you paying for your horse? If you are financially responsible for your horse, and you can travel independently to your horse everyday, and you feed, groom, muck out, ride etc all on your own - then get another horse. Doesn't matter what they say.

Let me tell you - horses are expensive. Not the upfront cost of them but the day in, day out costs. Agistment, feed, vet bills, rugs, tack, wormer, farrier, dentist not to mention transport costs to get out there - I've spent more on transport than agistment per week many times. Not only does it cost ridiculous amounts of money - but you never get any of it back, not really.

I don't know your particular situation but if you want a horse to take to pony club, and to be safe, then you have to work with it. Ride it everywhere, take it everywhere. Another horse isn't going to fix your problems. Get this horse going well, do all you can on it, and if you feel its not good enough then sell it on and buy something more suitable.

I know you might think some of these responses are harsh but a lot of people's parents never buy them horses. They never get lessons. Your parents probably work a lot and pay for your horses - they don't have to, they don't want to because work is hard, and long, and you don't get much money.

Maybe get a job.
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post #12 of 54 Old 09-21-2010, 07:19 AM
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I've done that, (I've said he's not ready to be taken out). But, My dad is convinced 'Spider is the best horse', yeah sure, he's the best horse, so, if he's the best horse...that would mean he could compete in the olympics? Ya, I think not dad! I could try saying that again, maybe he could at least lease another horse for a while.
Thanks for all your help, anyway :)
Well then!


For the record, I believe my horse is "the best" horse and he for sure could never make it to the Olympics. But he is a solid citizen who tries to accomplish what I ask of him. I guess I am just not so selfish that it is impossible to see the good side of what I have. (Note, my horse is currently arthritic enough that he is only sound enough to do light work, but he is still "the best".)

How much work do you do for your current horse? Do you provide any of the money for this horse's expenses? Do you do the work needed for any other horse (does your family have other horses)?

It is hard to see past the immaturity when your first post was typed in plenty of text speak abbreviations. Maybe your father is also seeing that at this point you are not mature enough to care for another horse, along with certainly not being mature enough to appreciate it.
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post #13 of 54 Old 09-21-2010, 04:43 PM
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You should be grateful your parents got you a horse in the first place, not whining that they won't get you another.

I work my *** into the ground to afford my horses. I make sacrifices for them every day. I make the drive every morning and every night to feed them. Before I had my truck, I took the bus.

Until you get to that point, I'm of the opinion that you probably don't deserve the one you have.
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post #14 of 54 Old 09-22-2010, 07:20 AM Thread Starter
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God, I didn't know everyone would get so angry :S Jeese, everyone take a chill pill!! I'm not gonna get another horse anyway, we've found a better way. I'm gonna give Spider another chance, if he still be's naughty with me all the time, i'm going to lease a horse to take to pony club until I think he is ready.

I'm not trying to be selfish! I just wanted what I thought I should get! There r little rich girls who don't do anything for their horses but just ride them and get ribbons, I am not like that! I take care of my horse and have fun doing it. He loves me and I love him!

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Until you get to that point, I'm of the opinion that you probably don't deserve the one you have.

How could u say something like that? I certainly deserve my horse! And so does everybody that cares about their horse!

I am not checking this thread anymore, it has gotten WAY out of hand!

ShowJumping is the best sport <3 I LOVE MY PONY
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post #15 of 54 Old 09-22-2010, 11:42 AM
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Wow...

I'm just gonna say, I think you should be **** grateful to have one horse. If you have to hold off on competing, so be it. You're not going to die if you can't do Pony Club right this instant. Besides, I think it's much better to have one horse that you can devote all your time and attention to instead of having to juggle multiple horses. It can get a bit stressful trying to divide your time between 2 horses and accomplish everything you want to get done with both of them, and still do chores on top of that. There just aren't enough hours in the day sometimes.

And... how are things getting out of hand? No one is being nasty. I think you're just upset because you've been told what you don't want to hear.

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What a man can be, he must be.
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post #16 of 54 Old 09-22-2010, 12:07 PM
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I'm not trying to be selfish! I just wanted what I thought I should get!
What a lovely attitude.... NOT!


One has to wonder if SJG's parents know they have raised someone who "just wanted what I thought I should get" or if SJG acts like a responsible respectful person around them?
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post #17 of 54 Old 09-22-2010, 12:12 PM
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I never had to convince my parents anything about horses. I started working when I was 13, bought my first horse at 14, bought my second horse at 16, third at 17 and never asked them for a cent for upkeep, vets bills, comp fees, nothing. Kept my grades up at school and college and held down a part time job, sometimes two. Did I need three horses? Probably not but I wanted them so I made sure I got them and looked after them.

Perhaps if you take ALL the responsibility for horse ownership your parents would be more willing to consider it?

All horses deserve, at least once in their lives, to be loved by a little girl.
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post #18 of 54 Old 09-22-2010, 12:17 PM
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*rant warning* I can feel a rant brewing, going to hold it in for the moment....

All horses deserve, at least once in their lives, to be loved by a little girl.
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post #19 of 54 Old 09-22-2010, 12:50 PM
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Just hold it in sara. Its just not worth it.
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post #20 of 54 Old 09-22-2010, 12:51 PM
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Just hold it in sara. Its just not worth it.
Aww c'mon, why am I the only one here who would like to see her rant?
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