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post #1 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 02:11 AM Thread Starter
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Unhappy How do I deal?

So here's a little back story. Due to family and money issues, among many others, I've been riding on and off my entire life. But every period of not riding just keeps getting worse and worse. Right now I'm in my senior year of high school, stressed beyond belief, slightly depressed for many reasons. I really hate my family, and the only thing that makes me happy anymore is spending time with my boyfriend. On top of all this, I want to make horses my life, so I'm frustrated too. All I want right now is to be able to ride again. Feel that connection and love. Challenge myself. I want to spend hours grooming horses till they shine like no other. I miss barn chores. I miss everything. I would do anything to be around horses again but I simply can't.

Money issues keep me from lessons or leasing. I don't know anyone with horses they'd let me ride, and even if I did I have no way out to a barn on a regular basis because I don't have the money for a car. Because of that I can't pick up a job at a barn because I have no definite way of being reliable. It's killing me inside each and every day.

Anyway, long story short, does anyone have any advice on how to deal with being horseless? Has anyone else gone through this? What did you do? And if anyone has any connections to someone that might be able to help me, that would be incredible. I live in Southeastern, PA. Near Valley Forge. Anyway, thanks in advance.

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post #2 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 02:25 AM
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xeventer,

I live far away and can offer no real help. All I can say is that it won't last forever, really.
You can be helpful on this forum giving advice to others who need it. You can do some research into an area of horses that you might know nothing about.
Read some classical horsemanship texts.

Have faith that an opportunity will come. I had to wait so long you wouldn't believe it!
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post #3 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 04:40 AM
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Since you are senior in high school, I am assuming that you are old enough to get a job. That would be first and foremost on my list of things to do. And I do mean a paying job. Then you can work on getting a vehicle of your own and then later on taking lessons or something involving horses.
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post #4 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 09:41 AM
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I agree with the others. A job will actually help refocus your emotions and help you achieve your goal of becoming a horse owner. Read, look up and get some magazines to help with your knowledge.

I feel your pain with not having a horse but understand that once you get your life in order and graduate your goals will only get closer to reality. Focus on what you need to do to get through school and get a job and start saving money for your horse.
It will get better. I promise. Hugz from me!
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post #5 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 10:09 AM
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When I was horseless I volunteered in trail riding barn to take rides out. As a "pay" for that I could ride any horse I like and ride just by myself when there were no rides to take.



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post #6 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 10:16 AM
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Ya kitten! That is so much fun. I used to work as a trail guide. When no customers the girls and I would go out and just have a blast!
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post #7 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 10:51 AM
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I agree with kitten-Val. i help out at a local barn every week, and in return the owner lets me ride a horse or two when im there. i also agree about the getting a job thing. im sure you could cover lesson expenses easily if you had one :)
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post #8 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 12:01 PM Thread Starter
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Thanks for the responses guys. Just to clarify, I have a job. I've had one from the moment I turned 16, and right now, am possibly looking at picking up two jobs. Unfortunately, with my current family situation, my money goes to living expenses (food, clothes, some of the bills, etc.). I would love to work at a barn doing anything, but do you guys think there are any barns that would be willing to have someone who can't give definite times of availability? I haven't been able to find any yet :[

Also, trust me, my horse research has been ongoing from the time I knew what they were ;] I think some people call it an obsession? Haha.

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post #9 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 01:46 PM
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Well... You can still set up some "flexible time" I guess? Like I did take trail rides out on Sun (because weekend was the highest activity, of course). But of course, with full time job I couldn't go out whenever I wanted to, so I made it clear from the very beginning.

BTW, I also have seen people looking for someone to ride their horse with them, because they have too many horses and not enough time (and sometime just want to have a partner to ride with). I've seen such ads on my local forums. So just keep your eyes open (or put ads on local boards and/or equine stores).



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post #10 of 12 Old 01-09-2011, 01:50 PM Thread Starter
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That's a good idea. I didn't think of that one. Thanks :]

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