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post #51 of 56 Old 06-08-2013, 03:21 PM
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I don't think you are naive, only you were there and can have an opinion about whether or not he is telling the truth. It does sound that he realizes he made a mistake, and as long as you are comfortable with that, that's all that matters.
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post #52 of 56 Old 06-08-2013, 03:39 PM
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Haven't read all the replies. Here's my two cents.

It depends.

I have a very good instructor back home. I love him and he's fabulous. He has one lesson horse. Sometimes when I go to ride with him, I ride another of his students' horses. I assume that is part of his agreement with them and he has permission to use them in lessons. On the flip side, if I boarded where he is, I'd be thrilled to have him use my horse for up to daily lessons (even though my horse is so far from a schoolmaster it's funny) because I KNOW he would not allow anyone to mistreat or mistrain my horse, and my horse would likely be better for it.

Now, if we had never talked about it, and I showed up or just found out, I would be mad, just like you! But so long as it was agreed-upon beforehand and there was a limit of number or length of rides so as not to wear my horse out too much, it could work out well.

ETA: I would expect something in return though, probably free lessons or reduced board for me. :)
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post #53 of 56 Old 06-08-2013, 05:59 PM
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Hi all, new to the forum.

I'd like to comment that I would be very upset if this happened to me. I would have the horse and any other horse I own moved asap. I wouldnt bother with anything else because ultimately it would be a waste of time. I'm sure the BO knew you weren't happy.
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post #54 of 56 Old 06-08-2013, 07:37 PM
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Originally Posted by FeatheredFeet View Post
When I kept one of my Saddlebreds, at the LAEC, it happened to me.

At the LAEC, horses are kept stalled. My horse was taken out and ridden, every day except Saturday, which was my heavy day at work. He was even taken out on all holidays.

I arrived as usual one Sunday, to find a saddle mark on my horse. A saddle mark? Not in a million years have I ever left a horse like that. Being early Sunday, there were not many people about. However, after asking around, I discovered my then boyfriend, had been trying to impress another girl and had allowed her to ride my horse. He had apparently told her that he owned the horse.

I made sure that the boyfriend was no more and that the gate guards knew to not allow him in from then on. I also had others watch the horse for me, in the hours I was not there.

I don't think I have ever been that angry and I'm quite sure the boyfriend never knew I had such language, in my repertoire!

Is this a common thing amongst slimeball cheating b/f's? A good friend of mine had the exact same thing happen to her. She came home after a weekend show to find her stallion with saddle sweat marks. She asked around and found out what her b/f had been trail riding with a lady. She parted ways with Mr. Slimeball.
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post #55 of 56 Old 06-08-2013, 07:55 PM
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I don't think it's naive, and while my gut reaction would be to freak out and get super angry if someone rode my horse, I think you probably handled it the best way.

In your situation you have a language barrier, and you had recently had an arrangement where he worked your horse. He apologised and stopped it immediately. I'd be wary for the future, but if in all other ways it's worked out well I'd probably stay and see what happens.
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post #56 of 56 Old 06-09-2013, 12:31 AM
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If anyone rode my mare without my permission, baby Jesus coming down from heaven could not save them from my wrath!! No way, no how, would that be acceptable. Nobody touches my horse without my consent.

I would move barns a.s.a.p. There is no excuse in the world they could possibly make that would be acceptable.

The blood runs hot in the Thoroughbred and the courage runs deep. In the best of them, pride is limitless. This is their heritage and they carry it like a banner. What they have, they use. - C.W. Anderson
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