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post #1 of 4 Old 07-07-2013, 04:31 AM Thread Starter
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How do you say goodbye?

I know I haven't posted too much on here, but I read around a lot (oh my goodness, some of the foals you all have are adorable!) and I'm really at a loss for this one.

I've been leasing Flynn for a year this month, but since I'm going off to school in August in Kentucky I can no longer lease him. He is a very special, goofy horse - he taught me how to jump, he dealt with me screwing up, he gave me confidence that no other horse has, and we did my first event together. We didn't place, but we were 4th after dressage (the judge was... very critical of my circles) which made me super happy because he hates dressage. And 9th after cross country because of a slow time. Which is unusual because speed is not an issue with him. But I was just glad I didn't get lost in the trees!

Anyways. His owner bought a different horse (Flynn is getting older and really shouldn't be jumping much longer), so after I stop leasing him she's going to sell him. He's pretty bombproof, strong to jump but just because he loves it. I'm sure he'll sell easily, if someone's looking for a horse like him.

I free leased a horse at my old barn and can still see her occasionally, so saying goodbye really wasn't an issue. But with Flynn... We've gotten so close. Buying him isn't an option, as I really would love to jump higher than 2'6"ish, among other reasons. I just am not sure how to go about saying goodbye to him. I'm sure many people have gone through something similar, and I know it's not going to be easy no matter what, but maybe you guys can help me out?

Some pictures. Just cause.

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post #2 of 4 Old 07-07-2013, 08:13 AM
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First let me compliment you on how cute you two loo together!

My situation is a little different from yours, but I think I can help. (I need to explain the situation a bit first) A couple years ago, my trainer was diagnosed with breast cancer. A few months after that, one of my two mares died. My trainer was boarding two horses (a mare and her foal) at the barn where I trained with her. Because treatments were getting so expensive, she would have to sell one of them. Now, it was time to wean the foal, and I needed a friend for my mare, so my trainer moved her horse to live on my property.

Now, I didn't really get along with this horse, until we bought another mare (3 mares now!). A few months later, my trainer passed away, and a week later, a friend of hers from the barn had found a woman to give this mare to.

I felt horrible for saying goodbye to her, until I heard a bit about her only a month later: She had made fast friends with a gelding in her paddock, and was giving lessons to children. This horse was a very good dressage horse, but rather temperamental (to horses and people) , so to me, I was pleasantly surprised to learn that she was making friends.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, think about how much Flynn has taught you, and how much you enjoyed learning from him. It sounds like his owner is a good person (she's retiring him because it may not be healthy for him to jump, due to his age...?) so she'll find him the perfect home. Maybe she'll even give you a little bit of information on his new home, if you're worried about where he's going.

And as for actually saying goodbye, hugs, kisses, and telling him how much he means to you will probably help both of you. Maybe do something that you both enjoy on your final ride, and take lots of pictures.

I know that it's always hard to say goodbye to a horse, but I hope that helps a little bit!
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post #3 of 4 Old 07-07-2013, 09:42 AM
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You two do look good together! It's always sad to lose a horse friend, but your paths are going different ways & sounds like his owner will take the time to get him a great new home. Get lots more pictures & keep him in a special place in your heart.
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post #4 of 4 Old 07-07-2013, 10:07 AM
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I agree with others...he's cute...have to love a horse that sticks out his tongue. The owner sounds like she wants a good home for him and that is what is important. The hardest part of parting with a horse when it is not the final parting and you know what happened, is worrying about their health and well being..most of us can't help it because in our minds no one can love or care for them like we can. In truth I would prefer to lose a horse to euthanasia than to sell one; it destroys me to sell if I can't have contact with the new owner and even then I wean myself away after a time.

As others have said, say your goodbyes with a special ride and lots of treats. If the owner is concerned with the home the horse goes to, maybe ask if she can let you know that he went to a good home that will care for will ease your mind.
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