Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Southeast PA, USA
How to Politely Leave...
Hi all, so I have sort of a question/rant. I just need some good advice. For the past year I was working for a woman as her sort of assistant barn manager. I befriended this woman and really cared about her and her daughter, and I think as a result, was sort of blinded as to what was going on. I was being grossly underpaid. I won't say what I was making, but it was really pathetic. The woman was paying me what she could afford though, and I loved what I was doing. Fast forward almost a year, woman is in a bad place financially and getting divorced. She's having a hard time and her personality has changed for the worse due to it all. I get fired as I had a bad fall and needed too much time off work for her liking. She also tells me that everything wrong at the barn is because of me, but that I'm welcome to keep helping out in exchange for being able to ride her horse who I've trained and no one else rides anyway. That last part seemed a little odd to me after her telling me that everything was my fault. Fast forward a little more and I find out that things have gotten drastically worse since I've left. Horses are losing weight, the owner's attitude has gotten even worse and everyone is leaving. Here's my problem, I have other horses that I can ride, and would like to tell her that I am not interested in working for her or riding her horse (I would loved to buy him if I could, but circumstances dictate that as long as he's with her, I should stay away from him), and here's my problem. I'm in our local Pony Club thanks to a joint Christmas present from everyone at the barn, and she is a part of it too. She is this year's Non-Qualifying Dressage rally coach, and will be privy to everything I do relating to the Pony Club. I am very uncomfortable with finally coming out and letting her know that I don't wish to use her horse anymore and that I want to take my saddle and things out of her barn's tack room. I guess I'm just scared of what sort of problems she could cause for me as far as Pony Club goes. I'm almost 20 years old and am just starting Pony Club now, so I would like to progress through it with as little hassle as possible.
Thanks to anyone who read all this. It was mostly just a rant I had to get out, but I would also appreciate any advice you can give.
"The art of riding is keeping a *horse* between you and the ground."