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post #1 of 10 Old 07-04-2013, 08:06 AM Thread Starter
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I dont know what to believe

So my mare smarty, I bought her as a beginner horse. Now I have some people saying shes a good honest horse and good for me just needs a bit of work, then I have other people who say shes not a beginners horse.
So how am I going with riding?
I cant ride her anywhere other then the roundyard because she spooks at everything that moves and everything that doesn't.
She pigroots when out of work and today kicked out at me because I hadn't lunged her for maybe a month (understandable the ground was slippery but still no excuse) didn't have whip with me so she got away with it.
She is perfect on the ground, I can float, wash, brush do anything really with her on the ground, She is perfect to lunge in the big round yard, all I have to do is use the verbal signals I taught her and she changes transitions.
I took her to the show the other week and only things she did wrong was 1- spooked at plastic bag, 2- didn't want to slow down (but that's a new environment so you have to be understanding towards that in some levels)
She hasn't pigrooted for a while now, though I haven't cantered on her in some time.
My friend has ridden her quite a few times and believes shes right for me, she rode her at the show for me and said she was pleased how there were rides galloping passed and my mare was happy to just plod contently around.
So I'm honestly thinking it might be me. It might be because I'm so nervous that she spooks so much. I just don't know what to do. I'm not selling her and finding a quitter horse. If I sell Smarty I will not be returning to horses. I thought maybe I could get some lessons on another quieter horse, build my confidence up on it..
Any ideas....
And I'm currently between trainers atm as our trainer just left the aggistment. We were making progress with her but she wont be able to train us any longer which is very disappointing..

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post #2 of 10 Old 07-04-2013, 08:12 AM
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Confidence builders are always a good idea. Another small tip (if you're not doing it already) is to breathe! My gelding can spook easily, so I concentrate on breathing so my back and butt muscles don't tighten and are relaxed. I usually sing or talk when I find myself bracing in the saddle.
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post #3 of 10 Old 07-04-2013, 10:11 AM
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My mare can definitely be a handful at times. And for a while (especially last summer, I bought her in the spring of 2012) I wondered if I'd made a mistake buying such a smart, opinionated, and GREEN mare.

Over the winter I took riding lessons (still continuing with the lessons) and riding her this spring has been SO much better. Granted, she did do a little growing up on her own over the winter, but now when she spooks I feel much more in control and my first response is more "stop that" and less "ah! I'm going to fall off!"

I don't know if you already take lessons, or if you take lessons on your mare or school horses, but for myself, taking lessons on school horses really helped. I could focus more on what I was doing when I wasn't watching every ear flick for the possibility of a spook. My instructor says my seat and posture have come a loooong way and I'm sure that has something to do with why I'm not as worried about falling off as I was last year.

Just a thought, but I know it's helped me.

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post #4 of 10 Old 07-04-2013, 11:25 PM Thread Starter
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Hey guys I decided to ring a riding lesson place up today and waiting on a phone call back as I got the answering machine. I agree with that Falibhe, I'm always trying to watch her body language I feel it would be such a relief to ride a horse that I can focus on myself. I need to get more confident cantering if I could ride a horse that canters beautifully and calmly and got more confident it would do a world of good in my opinion for me.
My mare isn't green, shes 13 and been out showing was owned by a 10 year old girl so shes done a bit of everything...I just reckon it might be my lack of confidence.
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Hey guys I decided to ring a riding lesson place up today and waiting on a phone call back as I got the answering machine. I agree with that Falibhe, I'm always trying to watch her body language I feel it would be such a relief to ride a horse that I can focus on myself. I need to get more confident cantering if I could ride a horse that canters beautifully and calmly and got more confident it would do a world of good in my opinion for me.
My mare isn't green, shes 13 and been out showing was owned by a 10 year old girl so shes done a bit of everything...I just reckon it might be my lack of confidence.
That sounds exactly like that is what it is. She doesn't feel confident because her rider isn't confident.

I hope you find another trainer!
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post #6 of 10 Old 07-05-2013, 05:28 AM Thread Starter
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Hey guys trainer got back to me and sounds very confident that the reason she too is acting up is because of my nerves and has offered me to ride her horses to get my confidence back up and then if I can, take Smarty out to her place and she'll help me with her too. She offered for me to go out tomorrow but I have work so agreed that I would get back to her when I get my work roster for next week. She seemed very open, very polite so fingers crossed on how it goes.

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post #7 of 10 Old 07-05-2013, 05:37 AM
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That's good that you can ride someone else's horses for awhile, under their experienced instruction. It really might help and will hopefully show you that there is nothing to worry about.

Just remember when you are riding your horse, if you stress, she will too. It's good that you are also getting help before the situation gets too out of control. Is it possible to get her to ride your horse as well as offer advice? That way, you can either find out if it is the horse and resolve a training issue or you can see that the horse is a quiet, trustworthy and well manned horse.

I personally know what it is like to ride a horse that seems too much for you! Good luck. :)
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post #8 of 10 Old 07-05-2013, 08:38 AM Thread Starter
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she said eventually down the road if I want to that would be a possibility thatd shed get on my mare. My old instructor who left my aggistment got on Smarty and she was very well behaved, no problems at all so I do feel it is me making her spooky

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If you're afraid of your horse, you're never going to get anywhere with her. And I'm not telling you to be brave and keep going; it's perfectly possible you're going to get hurt.
You didn't mention WHY you got her. What made you decide you were ready for a horse? Did you decide lessons were getting boring? Did you shareboard a horse prior to purchasing one? If you didn't, you should have.
Based on what you've written, you're a rider. You're probably good riding around, but you're probably not a trainer. I'm doubting you're going to be able to fix any of the issues your mare has.
You have three options:
1) Work closely with a trainer several times a week and hope to get results. Realize that the problem is not just your mare, but your lack of experience as well.
2) Sell the horse and go back to lessons or shareboarding.
3) Keep doing what you're doing and hope that it works out.
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post #10 of 10 Old 07-06-2013, 06:32 AM Thread Starter
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If you're afraid of your horse, you're never going to get anywhere with her. And I'm not telling you to be brave and keep going; it's perfectly possible you're going to get hurt.
You didn't mention WHY you got her. What made you decide you were ready for a horse? Did you decide lessons were getting boring? Did you shareboard a horse prior to purchasing one? If you didn't, you should have.
Based on what you've written, you're a rider. You're probably good riding around, but you're probably not a trainer. I'm doubting you're going to be able to fix any of the issues your mare has.
You have three options:
1) Work closely with a trainer several times a week and hope to get results. Realize that the problem is not just your mare, but your lack of experience as well.
2) Sell the horse and go back to lessons or shareboarding.
3) Keep doing what you're doing and hope that it works out.
I got a horse because I was kicked out of my riding club for having an operation on my spine and they weren't comfortable with the possibility of me falling off though I agreed to everything they asked me to sign stating its my responsibility. I had been riding years before hand at pony club and their horses and ponies and was a confident rider... no I am no trainer

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