I finally got what I wanted and now I think I'm going to mess it up... - The Horse Forum
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post #1 of 7 Old 07-16-2013, 08:24 PM Thread Starter
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I finally got what I wanted and now I think I'm going to mess it up...

My whole life I have wanted to train horses. I have worked with every horse I could get my hands on and I've had years of lessons and training. I even started a 9 year old Standardbred/Paint for my friend.
I finally got a job working with a horse for this lady because he has awful ground manners and no respect for his handler. I KNOW I can handle this because I have dealt with the same issues in other horses...even my trainer thinks I can handle it but I don't know if I can.
I met the lady and her horse the other day and now I'm second guessing myself. If the horse knows I'm stressed about this I'll never get him to where I want him to be. I know I just need to trust my training and my experience but I'm so worried I'm going to mess this up. Now that I'm actually working a horse for someone who is paying me to do it I feel like I have so much pressure on me to do well and if I don't I can totally give up my dream of being a horse trainer.
I FINALLY have what I've always wanted but I'm not exactly happy about it....
I don't know that I'm looking for advice or anything...I just want to know if I'm making a mistake. I don't think I am but I can't truly convince myself of that. I'm going to work with the horse tomorrow and I can't be all wishy washy like this then or he'll know I'm not confident..... >.< I don't know what to do to convince myself I DO have the skills to do this. He's not a difficult horse, just spoiled and bored....
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post #2 of 7 Old 07-16-2013, 08:41 PM
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you've already figured out why this horse has the issues it has. that's a great step in the right direction for training/tuning him up! you know what you have to work with, and if you have a firm but caring hand with the horse, i don't think you should have any worry at all about messing it up.

you'll do just fine :) remember to relax. if you worry about 'getting it all right' then nothing will go right. have fun, do your best, and i know you'll do great.

keep us updated! i love hearing about horse re-training, both their mind and body :)
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post #3 of 7 Old 07-16-2013, 08:51 PM
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You owe this horse an education, stop thinking about someone paying you, think about making this horse good for his owner. Positive thoughts only!
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post #4 of 7 Old 07-16-2013, 09:32 PM
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Remember to include the owner at some point. It won't do any good for you to be able to work successfully with the horse if the owner doesn't. It will merely go back home and do the same things as before.
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post #5 of 7 Old 07-16-2013, 09:38 PM
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Focus on tiny steps of progress. When I first got my horse, I was so overwhelmed by the thought of trying to make a perfect riding horse out of the little baby I had, that I couldn't see any of the progress we were making and ended up pushing too hard. Thankfully, there aren't any long-term ill-effects from my mistakes, and I am learning more and more that the smallest bit of progress is something to celebrate, and that things can't be learned (or taught, or re-trained) in x-amount of days.

Keep us updated! Good luck, and remember to breathe deeply :) You can do it!

A man can no more diminish God's glory by refusing to worship Him than a lunatic can put out the sun by scribbling the word 'darkness' on the walls of his cell. CS Lewis
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post #6 of 7 Old 07-17-2013, 05:39 PM Thread Starter
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I worked this the horse today and he was really good. We had a few issues but I ended up accomplishing more with him today than I thought I would!
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post #7 of 7 Old 07-17-2013, 05:49 PM
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That's great, I'm glad you accomplished something.

There's an old saying that the more you work with horses, even an arena with thousands of spectators becomes empty. Eventually, your nerves will fade and all you will have is you and the horse. it won't matter the stakes or the eyes on you. All that will matter is the safety of you, the horse you're working with, and what you are trying to accomplish. That's how clinicians get to the top. They block it all out.

Pssh.I didn't pick up the wrong lead
It's called a counter canter...
...A very advanced maneuver.
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