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post #1 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 01:07 PM Thread Starter
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I have been royally screwed and it just gets worse

I haven't said much about this. As some of you know I started a barn, with someone I considered a friend. Unfortunately things went from good, to bad, to worse. The climax (or anti-climax as the case may be) is the mare passing away. It is in my firm belief it could have been prevented. Not only this but my "friend" and I had a falling out, that just wasn't going to get better.

When I brought it to the attention of the people we lease from, I volunteered to leave. The partnership was dissolved, I found a place to move my horses. I lost the place I needed to keep giving my lessons, lost where I could continue to train the horses I was being paid to train. (But I had found a new barn where I could do these so it wasn't looking so bad)
The last horse I was working on went home last night. I got an email from the owner of the horse, which basically said he had a rather "interesting" conversation with the "friend" and now he won't be bringing me the further 6 horses I was to train for him.

So now, I've lost income from lessons, and in one fell swoop, lost another more potential income. Now I have to pay $1100 a month in board, which I really can't afford without my training/lesson income. All this would be something to deal with but apparently now I've been character assassinated, and in this small horse community it won't take long for the bad word to spread even further. I, on the other hand, haven't said passed on my opinion of these people to anyone.

I'll admit I wasn't entirely professional when airing my concerns. It's taking everything I have to not sell my horses and be done with it all entirely. I keep telling myself, just get through this day, tomorrow will be better. But then something else comes up from it, and I'm continually getting kicked.

The karma bus has run me over big time. I will most definitely not ever go into business with someone again. Particularly horse business.
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post #2 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 01:15 PM
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:( That's awful news. I'm sorry- when it rains, it pours, doesn't it? Keep your head up and hopefully everything will get better.
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post #3 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 01:15 PM
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sorry to hear that,because i know by your previous posts you were[over the moon] about you new venture, a man once told me that a partnership, is the only ship guaranteed to sink,theres not much you can do about your ex mate giving you a bad name,only try to explain to the ones that mention it, only problem is there will be plenty that won,t and just take what the other one says as the truth, all the best anyway
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post #4 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 01:25 PM Thread Starter
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Yeh Jimmy, you're not wrong. Thankfully I have quite a few friends in this part of town that know me and are squashing whatever they hear if they hear it. I just hate that folks would think bad of me. Most particularly since in my opinion I was looking out for the horses. After all, it was my job to do so.

Argh. Particularly cruddy situation.
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post #5 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 01:32 PM
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I would send an email to the person that cancelled the 6 horses and tell him there are 2 sides to every story and while you would like to take the high road and not bash anyone your lively hood is at stake and would like to explain your side. Then do so very professionally
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post #6 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 01:48 PM Thread Starter
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Yeh I understand what you're getting at, and I agree, but part of me is like there's no real point trying to explain. It'll just make me look bitter, which I am LOL!
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post #7 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 01:53 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear that It amazes me how some people act sometimes. Just keep your chin up and do the best you can. It's all anyone can do, things will get better for you.

Do you think it would do any good to talk to the guy and see why he left?
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post #8 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 02:16 PM
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aw! That's too bad! :(
I hope it all works out for you! :)
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post #9 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 03:06 PM
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Make sure you explain to the man what really happened so that he knows both sides and doesn't perpetuate the rumors that your "friend" has been spreading. Then give the friend a call and make darn sure that she knows that you will not stand for that behavior and you will not participate in it either. Don't let the actions of one person change who you are. Put an ad in the paper and try to get some more clients. The best way you can get back at her is to be a resounding success with your own business. Tell everyone you talk to that moving out of that barn was the best thing that ever happened to you.

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post #10 of 18 Old 02-27-2010, 03:53 PM
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^^^ Wise words, there. I admire your refusal to sink to the trash talking your ex-partner has, and while it sucks for now in the long run that will only make you look better. Kevin has the right idea. Go on about your business and try to round up more clients. Explain the situation honestly to those who ask you, with as little justification as possible, but leave it at that. Don't sit down to have b!tch sessions with new clients, because then you are only spreading the bad rep yourself. Ignore it, if you have the skills to back your business up, people will realize that soon enough.

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