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post #1 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 12:43 AM Thread Starter
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I hope this is allowed

Forgive me if this is not the correct place to post this, but it is all I could think of.
I have no real horsesy friends to chat with, and a horse person is the only I think can understand.

I recently made the hard decision to sell my horse. Having just had surgery to pin my pelvic bone and more needed for my hips (old injury), I just can not get on and off my horse without pain. My horse is such a great guy, I figured instead of being a greedy selfish person, I could help change someones life with a great horse. And my horse is only 9 and has so much more to give.

Background on my horse: He is a 9 yr. old Quarter horse (never got papers) gelding. He is a gentle giant that stands 17.2 hands. I got him because I needed something I could pony unruly yearlings all over with, and he was perfect. My 10 yr old son and his 4-h club ride him everywhere.

I posted ads for him and was so picky about who even came to try him out. I had to be sure that it would be a perfect match. Early on a lady inquired about him, saying he reminded her of an old horse she had. I asked her questions and she said she was 66 years old. I told her I didn't think it would be a good match. She kept on me, almost begging me. She told me she probably would never ride him herself and he would be there for her to love and for friends to ride. Promised to always keep touch with pictures etc. So she comes to my house sees him and gives me my asking price.

The next day she asks if I know of any local haulers, I give her the number of a guy I used sometime back, I also remind her that whoever she uses make sure they have a trailer big enough for him, he is tall. Later that day the hauler comes and has a 2 horse slant. I ask and he assures me the trailer is tall enough. NOPE one look and my horse knew and I knew he would not be comfortable/ safe in there.

I mentioned something and got a under the breath remark, he's not your horse anyways. After lots of rearing and refusing, my gelding stepped a hoof in and his head touched the roof like I expected, he panics goes up and back and takes about 4 inches of skin off his forehead. I had a melt down.

Mind you the lady that bought him was not here, she was back at the place the horse was to be delivered. The hauler tell her on the phone the horse is crazy, and the horse was hurt. Shes screaming she don't want the horse she wants her money back . The hauler is angry and writes up a bill for $495 for his time and effort and he is not leaving till he gets it. I never contracted him, she did. I was such a mess about my hurt horse I gave the hauler the money so he would leave my place.

The lady demands her money back, that I was trying to sell her a "crazy" horse.

So now here I am, having put sold and stopping all the ads I had listed, with my poor hurt horse that is traumatized beyond compare, and is going to be a big deal trying to load him in anything after that

When in doubt, pinky out.

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post #2 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 12:56 AM
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How awful. simply awful. I really feel for you, and more importantly, your good horse.

It's probably better that the horse did not end up with that lady. her reaction tells me that she probably would not have been a good owner, anyway.
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post #3 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 01:12 AM
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I'd refund her money minus the $495.00 and be done with that lady.

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post #4 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 11:12 AM
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Yep, the woman contracted with the hauler it's her bill to pay. She knew how tall the horse is and should have had someone with a draft horse trailer.

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post #5 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 12:33 PM
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I agree with what others said. Actually she should be refunded price less $495 LESS any vet bill!
Thankfully she didn't get your horse. That's outrageous. Hope your fellow is o.k. after time and finds the correct new owner eventually.

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post #6 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 12:49 PM
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What a horrible experience! Sometimes, we really have to listen to what our gut is telling us. The horse needs to stay with you, your son can enjoy him and grow up on him.

So many people sell horses because "they are not being used" then bad stuff happens. So many people just don't really understand horses or what is involved in caring for them.

I am so sorry you both went through this. I would refund the money, quickly so she doesn't start up any more drama.

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post #7 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 01:13 PM
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I'm so sorry this happened to your horse and you.

My first alert would have been her statement that she would not be riding much but the horse was for her friends to ride.
I had to fend off a pushy woman a few years ago. She wanted to buy one of our horses and it didn't matter how many reasons I gave her as to why this horse was not for her. After numerous contacts I was about to order her to never darken my door again when she eventually got the clue. And we ended up keeping the horse to her last day. I don't like pushy! Makes me wonder what they are hiding. Luckily with this woman I knew.

I am down to one horse. The neighbor has three across the fence so she sort of has friends. I would much rather have another here. At times I wonder if it's not time to find someone who would give her a good home and maybe if the right situation came along I would. But it would have to be right because once they are out of your control, well, they are out of your control.

I wish you success in finding a new owner for your guy. It's not a simple task.

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post #8 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 01:28 PM
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Would your guy be suitable to train to cart? If you can't ride anymore and he's a really great guy, maybe start driving him?
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post #9 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 01:38 PM
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I live in your neck of the woods. It is hard to find real horse people here, there are a lot of real good ones, but also a lot of wannabes.

I see a lot of red flags from the buyer. Your horse sounds real nice. I would contact some of many reputable trainers in Temecula and San Diego county to take your horse on commission.
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post #10 of 27 Old 01-11-2020, 09:33 PM Thread Starter
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Done, I was sick of her texting me.

When in doubt, pinky out.
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